All Women are different, of course, and as with anything boundaries vary. Part of devoted service is figuring out where Her comfort lies and what will bring Her joy vs what will bring a negative reaction.

I can’t imagine many getting mad about receiving a gift, unless they have explicitly stated not to get them one. As for an email, I always tell my boys they are welcome to message as long as they do not expect a response. How I react is based on many factors; managing expectations minimizes disappointment should I not be in a place to answer. I do read them and often discuss the contents when we next meet.