Originally Posted By Mistress Tissa

The truth is that it is valuable to people. It may not be to you, or others reading this, but using BDSM as a tool for healing has created tangible change for people.

And as far as trying to legitimize sex work: I personally like to somewhat normalize the erotic trade, reduce the fear and stigma around it, and find ways to help people relate to it. I believe this will help get certain activities decriminalized.

One way to do this is to get people to understand that what sex workers do isn't just tits and dicks and fucking and cum (or whips and chains and whatever else people think we do), but it includes companionship, intimacy, acceptance (sometimes radically so), and even forms of love. Sure, for some it is just getting off, but I bet that most people -- especially those who are more serious participants -- would say that it's helped them feel better in a multitude of ways.


As usual when we converse, we are in agreement in general but it is splitting hairs and language where we disagree. I don't despute the psychological benefits that many experience through BDSM play. It is tangible and real.

My issue is with those who try to make D/s about therapy alone to justify, or elevate, what they do above those who do it for the purpose that most of us session for. I believe that is because they don't see value in D/s as a valid sexual orientation abd therefore need this kind of thing to validate what they offer.

That is where my problem (and eye rolling) comes from... Not as a questioning of the healingb power of BDSM play in certain situations.
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