Buffalo,

Not to suck up to Mistress Ayn, although it probably would be a good idea on my part, but I do have to honestly say that O/our first session was amazing and each subsequent one was completely different but just as good. Not surprisingly, this is probably based on the depth of her session planning and the approach she outlined in her post.

Now, to the original premise, I would say part of that amazing 1st session was a very long flirtation and discussions on this very board in regards to all kinds of things related to D/s rather than just going off of a pre-session fetish list. This gave us a comfort level with each other going into that 1st session that probably doesn't normally occur until after multiple sessions, so O/our experience with each other is probably a bad example. However, I think both of our answers were based on our general experiences rather than the unusual (and freakin awesone) situation with each other.