I move on from sessioning with a particular domme when I have the feeling that there is no room for improvement because of her lack of communication/listening.

Most of my 1st sessions with each domme are "average" or only "quite good", which is understandable because she doesn't know me and my expectations very well yet, just as I don't know her and her potential.
And then, if all went well, we learn to know each other little by little and each session is better than the last one, until it becomes “excellent” or "perfect".
To take a concrete example : I may ask a dominatrix to wear black leggings and red corset for our first session (because I saw a pic in which she is dressed like that and loved it) and underline in my session request that my favorite activity is, let's say, CBT. However, when the day comes, the session is only "average" because her clothes weren't as sexy as on the picture and because she's finally not very good at torturing balls.
But I may remember that she first welcomed me on her doorstep dressed up with a pink running short and a white tank-top that I have found extremely sexy, and that she incidentally tickled me very efficiently with her nimble fingers during a little part of the session, which was absolutely fantastic! So I may compliment her on her tickling skills immediately after the session (Surprisingly it was only a secondary activity for me before I met her) and, a few weeks/months later, contact her for a 2nd session, asking her politely if she accepts to wear this sport outfit on which I fantasize during the session and sending her a session request where tickling is clearly brought to the fore.
And then, she may follow these new expectations: tie me spread-eagled on a bed, sit on me with her pink short pressed down on my stomach, and sadistically tickle my ribs for several long minutes with great enjoyment, giving me the best session I ever had!
All this fairy tale with happy ending to say that cooperation and listening can turn a first "average session" into a "perfect session". Sometimes it needs several sessions and exchanges to achieve this result.

But sometimes, some of them doesn't seem to read my pre-session and post-session emails nor to listen my (always very tactfully and diplomatic) constructive verbal remarks and requests, and the 2nd then the 3rd session are as "average" as the 1st one or even worst, even though I tried to guide her. In that case, I realize that there is no hope for improvement and I prefer to move on. I don't know if it shows a lack of motivation or a lack of chemistry (anyway it looks like a mix between your 1) and your 2)), but I think it's useless to insist in this situation. Too bad for the wasted potential.