I'm curious as to what people's views are when it comes to "Monogamy" in femdom. With my personal slaves (I've only had a few) it would have been out of the question unless the lady and, I were on the same page. Then, I would have been happy to loan him out and, wanted him to both have fun and, being of service. But, in the two cases where I was in a bdsm relationship (Non sexual) with a personal slave, that was a precious and, close friendship and, well as an unspoken contract of loyalty. Of the two personal slaves in my life, we ended up going different directions in life but, stay in touch, to this day.

With clients...no one really owns a client. I've never been unhappy with my clients seeing other doms. In fact, sometimes, especially when they are traveling, they've asked me for referrals and, references. There was one exception to this. One of my clients (Who is one of my best friends, to this day) and, I had a 2 hour session every week, most months we had a weekend session and, were on the phone all of the time together. It was somewhere between a client and, personal slave relationship. So, he was only allowed to play with another dom if I approved and, I sent a sealed letter for him to take to her.

My late husband and, I were monogamous in the traditional sense of the word. We certainly wouldn't have been having outright sex with anyone else. We played some times but, we had a very vanilla home and, family life that we were happy with. So, I had no problems with him going to Michelle Lacy's events and, having private sessions with ladies who I knew and, trusted. I found myself getting a little jealous about him going on one of Michelle's weekends. He sensed it and, said he wouldn't go. Then, I was left wondering what would worse to deal with...guilt of him missing out on something he looks forward a couple of times a year or, getting past him missing a family event to play with other women. I ended up insisting that he go and, felt good about that decision. I've known other couples with similar views. One of my good friends is a sub who is married to another sub. They have a traditional home life but, give each other freedom to play with Doms.

What are your thoughts and, experiences with this? Have your slaves, Doms, clients, partners, ect. felt the same?