Originally Posted By Cheyenne
It disappointed me, too, when I read about her enjoyment of bdsm as being due to childhood trauma. I have no doubt that is true for some people. But, for most of us, this is just fun play. After 3 years of pro-subbing to strangers who may or, may not have had chemistry with her and, appropriate skills, she must have been burnt out. My bet is anyone as kinky as she describes herself as being will find herself wanting to play again.

Masochist first and, submissive later sums up most of the corporal folks I've played with. Would you agree that a big part of getting the endorphin rush and, head space to make it all worthwhile has to do with the chemistry of the person you are with? This is why I've always wondered how pro subs do it.


I am sure there was quite a lot of variation in her chemistry. Reading between the lines I think she rarely had good chemistry with the guys whose real fantasy was to bang her. I think she developed some tricks for dealing with subpar chemistry which on occasion probably included some polite topping from the bottom. Yes that is a terrible accusation to make.

As for her future I think she will rediscover kink sooner or later. Vanilla sex is Just OK. Maybe she will go through a dominant phase. Or maybe she will find some guy who looks a lot like James Spader, is good at reading women and is the perfect match for her masochistic fantasies.