Domina M,
I remember joining Max Fisch in '98 or '99 and the arguments there about who was a "real" Mistress, whores-with-whips and all that were very contentious based on fear of prosecution. As someone who has been around awhile I've met strict Mistresses in dungeons and in private, escorts that do role-play, masseuses who handle some fetishes, female bodybuilders that are dominant and do a bit of everything (or nothing), and strippers who are kinky.

I could say more, but I'll leave it at that. I completely agree with you.