I agree with this. Maybe another way to phrase it is that there are people doing findom who are informed by IRL SM principles like SSC, or RACK, and feel connected to that lineage. And then there are people who have just started doing findom, and because all their experience is over the internet, they have a different relationship (or lack of relationship) to their subs and to SM in general.

I do get the support group and addiction thing. It can be a really dangerous fetish, and I think it is almost a form of edge play. I'm thankful that I have internal checks and balances that prevent me from getting too sucked in.