I believe "Kink Friendly" is just that, meaning someone doesn't immediately try to cure you of being kinky. Wanting to smell a pretty girl's feet in of itself is not an act of self loathing, but any kind of pleasure inducing activity can be addicting, and that is something to watch if it is ruining your vanilla life. But I digress.

It appears kink is less and less stigmatised and it should not be that hard to find one these days. For me I could not utilise therapy on a holistic level to get through my grief and loss with out sometimes mentioning my job and kink life--hey it is what I do. It would not work with every time it came up I had to deal with, "Wait, you like that?" Ugh. I have been pretty lucky though.