This is VERY interesting. Where did you read this? Did Eros send out an email or something? Because I ads are still up and I don't see any mention of them going away.




Eros died for me in 2018. I stopped advertising there in May of that year. This is because after they were raided by the government in November of 2017 everything went downhill. The people running it were embroiled in a law suit which some believe ended in a plea deal in which they must work with the FBI. Given how quickly various aspects of the site and their service changed, I believed this to be true. This is why I stopped using them. Working with FBI is just not something I want to hang around for, even if I'm operating within the law. (I had a creepy thing happen a couple of months ago which, to me, further confirms that they are a clandestine government op.)

My guess as to why they'd drop BDSM listings? Because they want to focus their resources on nabbing escorts. BDSM is just not lucrative. Having sex for money is explicitly against the law almost everywhere. Since we don't do that, we are just taking up space, a distraction, a waste of time.




Why does everyone forget about Dickie Virgin? They've been around since 1998 and are one of the top ranked sites on Google. I personally get a lot of traffic from there. And some people who book me say that's where they found me.



I've never been really interested in Tryst because it's an escort site with a token BDSM section. Still, I briefly considered just putting something up there as an experiment, to see what kind of clients I might get; but after I read their terms (as I always do), I had several questions. (One of their TOS involved something like reporting you to credit bureaus. WTF?) I had to ask them three times to answer and they finally did after like 6 months. That's a bad sign, so I decided to pass.



There is certainly a lot of trash on FetLife but there are some good people there, so I wouldn't write it off. I have also had people find me there and book sessions. Some great clients, in fact.

I always tell Dommes that a website is really the most important form of advertising you have. Don't rely on others providing space for you. Because if they fold you have nothing.

So, I have always focused on my site, and that is where most people find me.