Thank you for saying that! Ive been feeling like i dont fit in to BDSM recently or what i felt like was a traditional role because ive been more into pain than submission. I just want the pain because i enjoy it. Not because i want to be punished or anything like that.

You are right that ive struggled because that is not how femdom is typically portrayed. In many ways i still consider it femdom. Just different than what you see sold online