We are talking about a very intricate and complicated subject. This is a relation which is transactional and personal at the same time. How much of it depends on the two persons. I think you will agree that your own relations are very different with different mistresses.

A long relationship changes overtime and both parties have a say in how it evolves. Why I would care a lot in how the mistress perceives it I would not give a damn about how the rest of the world sees it.