(Disclaimer: We all know that ProDoms do not offer sex.
I am referring to every day life encounters.)

An interesting observation that I've encountered in the fetish circles I hang with is that it is for a lot of people. Some people in the play scene want only bdsm sans sexual contact. Others like fetish play as foreplay to straight sex. I've seen couples break up over their levels of interest not lining up.


For me, I'm sans sexual when it comes to playing with someone that I'm not in a romantic relationship with. But in a relationship, I need both. A relationship with out both would get boring very quickly. But if I had to choose, it would be fetish. What about you? Could you be happy with just one or the other? If you and to choose which one would it be?