Something i've tried to figure out for years...

i have a filing cabinet full of souvenirs from - mostly - my one Domme. They are obviously very valuable to me. Anything from magazines, personal photos, panties, etc, etc. i could really use some help as i'm quite scared.
my S.O. knows nothing of my BDSM interests (tried to get there with Her, but just didn't work out)

So my point is what will happen when my stash is discovered when i die? Yikes!! i would never want to hurt Her feelings or embarrass Her. Also we have a kid - can't imagine the horror if our kid found out about her dad "being such a perv!"
i certainly don't want her to remember me that way. How can i have my stash disposed of without major consequence after i die?

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated! i have pretty much zero ideas at the moment & also have no idea how long i'll be around. Could have a heart attack tomorrow!