This makes complete sense. The men who stop in for a quick fix want to get out of there as quickly as they can. They don't want it to be personal. They are ashamed that they are getting an erection over it. They just want their dirty business done. What I've probably missed is that the people in lifestyle scenes aren't taking a break from their normal life. It is real to them. The top in their scene may be on their bowling league or whatever is it they do through the week. Maybe it is the difference between compartmentalizing and living with your freak?