I hate the what do you do for a living question. It gets easier when you are older because people just assume you retired early. When you are young, once you tell someone about your occupation, it seems to be a distraction to most and becomes how you are known. When you get past 50, no one cares. Even the most vanilla of people have life stories that are equally crazy, by that point in life. It is an upside to aging. To the OT, if someone feels comfortable letting it all hang out, good for them. But, in no way should they feel that their kinks are anyone else's business unless they want them to be.