I don't disagree with anything you wrote.

All I can is "good luck". The power of compartmentalization is strong.

I've seen many conservative clients of prodommes over the years denigrate other subs for their taste in kinks and choices of candidates.

I told a few of them point blank that their conservative neighbors and conservative family/friends would look at them as monsters if they found out that they paid women to beat the crap out of them. I've also told them that they people they vote for make it progressively harder for them to have access to the sessions they want ( and act like children if they don't get ).

The responses have been derivations of verbal shoulder shrugs.

I think the core issue is that if someone compartmentalizes their kinks to the extent that they will not even "own it" in the privacy of their own thoughts they will own it in the bright light of day to advocate for themselves, people like them, and the sex workers they patronize.