I am often asked if I will participate in financial domination or blackmail scenarios. The short answer is “no”. I will occasionally play around with it as a theme on a NiteFlirt call or make you pay for unauthorized orgasms, but that’s about the extent of it. I have no interest in any sort of long-term FinDom relationship.

Why? I don’t find it particularly fun. I don’t enjoy playing the bratty girl that expects you to open your wallet just because I tell you. Call Me old fashioned but I think there should be some value for any sort of financial exchange and I can’t really wrap My head around a sub wanting that kind of domination. In addition, I would never blackmail a client in reality, so pretending that I would just seems forced. I’ve read extensively about financial domination, I’ve experimented with it and I just don’t find that it is for Me.

My lack of interest in it does not invalidate it as a real fetish or a real form of domination. I get that there are submissives that see turning over their finances to a dominant woman to be the ultimate surrender of their private space and a powerful aphrodisiac. I mean no disrespect to FinDommes that are good at their trade (although I think there are precious few of them that are genuinely good). As long as the Domme acts responsibly and the sub is consenting, I have no issues with it. But there is the rub. Since FinDom is practiced primarily online, a new breed of Dominatrix has sprung up and problems are starting to arise. More than one case has actually turned criminal when a FinDomme released private information about a client to the public because he refused to continue the roleplay.

If you seek financial domination, choose your FinDom Mistress wisely. Negotiate the real world implications and have a written record of that negotiation. The more exposed you really are, the more real and powerful it may feel, but the results, if things go wrong, could be catastrophic to your real life.

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Financial domination is one of those things I only partially understand and don't think I will ever fully understand. I have a few times played a game with a certain mistress with whom I had developed a good chemistry. She restrains me then tortures me until I cannot stand it. To get her to stop I must promise to buy her a gift (this is another variation of "using X to make me do Y"). There is no price limit agreed upon in advance. So when we go shopping together afterwards there is some risk that she might demand some outrageously expensive and I will admit that "danger" does produce an erotic tingle. I am guessing that is somewhat akin to what the finsubs experiences. I would point out this particular Domme has never gotten crazy playing this game.

From what I understand financial domination often comes with a very heavy dose of humiliation. This segues into the topic of "humiliation masochism" vs "physical pain masochism". I am not easy to humiliate and it usually does not play a big role in my sessions. However it seems that there are quite a few "humiliation masos" out there.

I think you understand it about as well as I do, thomas.