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#1995 - 11/27/16 12:11 PM Role plays
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I love a good role play from time to time. It's a fun departure from the norm - getting to be a doctor, teacher, interrogator, etc. Personally I think I am very good at them. I put effort into wardrobe, setting the scene, etc. but . . . some subs that request role plays absolutely suck at staying in character. I find Myself burdened with attempting to push them back into character or making the decision to just let the role play die and continue along the normal Mistress/slave role the sub keeps falling into.

Have any of you (Domme or sub) had similar experiences with this?
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#1997 - 11/28/16 12:17 AM Re: Role plays [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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In the early 90's all my sessions involved role play. By far the most common scenario is that the Domme would play my boss and she was receiving complaints from some of the women at the firm that I was sexually harassing them. She tells me that because I am otherwise a good employee she is not going to fire me if I take a very severe physical punishment.

In a variation of this the Domme would play a double role. We would start where she played one of the employees and I would harass her then switch to playing the supervisor (in one instance a quick apparel change was done with the hair altered a little to highlight the character change)

Then on one occasion it was a double Domme session. Younger Domme played the victim whom I would harass at the start. She would then accuse me in front of Older Domme who played the boss. Younger Domme got to witness my punishment and expressed vindication. I have found a majority of double Domme sessions to be not worth the extra cost but this one worked out nicely.

Later when I was doing a lot of switching there was a scene where where the Switch and I pretended to be two people who hated each other. They had a deal that they would play strip blackjack and the winner gets to torture the loser. If one player jumps to a clear lead they would start telling the other about the terrible things they were going to do (exaggerating somewhat but we did agree in advance that the loser's punishment would be a little bit nastier than usual to add some spice)

Several years later with a Domme who did not switch we acted out a variation of this where we played chess. I would set up the pieces so I had a small advantage at first and teased her about what was going to happen to her and she would squirm a little but then I would make a blunder and she would gain the upper hand and begin telling me what she was going to do to me (with a bit of exaggeration) And then she did checkmate me with a big grin.

A few years ago a certain Domme was involved in a fund raising effort for her favorite charity. The Role Play was that I would make what she regarded as a ridiculously small contribution. I refused to increase my contribution. She then persuaded me to do the right thing. At that time I was a bit obsessed with punishment enemas. The deal we worked out was that she would start by torturing me with an enema. If she could force me to capitulate with the enema I would write a check for a certain amount. If the enema didn't work then she would torture in other ways but the amount of the contribution would be less.

I was thoroughly restrained and a double Bardex nozzle was inserted and inflated. I held out for as long as I could but gave in eventually. She stopped the flow but at first only released one hand so I could write the check while still in agony and only when it was signed allowed to get relief.

There were a few others that were not very unusual (e.g. college student caught cheating)

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#1998 - 11/28/16 07:31 AM Re: Role plays [Re: The Thomas]
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Originally Posted By The Thomas
In the early 90's all my sessions involved role play. By far the most common scenario is that the Domme would play my boss and she was receiving complaints from some of the women at the firm that I was sexually harassing them. She tells me that because I am otherwise a good employee she is not going to fire me if I take a very severe physical punishment.

In a variation of this the Domme would play a double role. We would start where she played one of the employees and I would harass her then switch to playing the supervisor (in one instance a quick apparel change was done with the hair altered a little to highlight the character change)


I've done nearly the same boss/employee role play for spanking sessions many times, with some variations. Sometimes it was my boss herself who spanked me, sometimes it was the head of HR (Human Resources) who had received the complaints who did the spanking. Sometimes it was in her office if furniture allowed this to be realistic, other times it was at the spanker's home since she wanted to keep our little private session outside of the work environment. On other occasions, I was spanked by one of the women who had complained about me, made official with a letter from HR stating that this was a condition for keeping my job. Another variant was that after a discussion about my behavior, my boss or HR made an appointment for me to see a therapist who could help me with my problem. The therapist, of course, used spanking in her work.

Budget keeps me from booking double domme sessions, but I gave it a thought once, with both my boss and the woman who lodged the complaint spanking me. Once, on suggestion from the mistress I had booked at a houce, I gave a $20 tip to another house domme to do a cameo. The cameo turned out to be nothing more than for her to be my boss' secretary, who escorted me into her office, and then left. That wasn't a worth while deal for me.
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#1999 - 11/28/16 10:39 AM Re: Role plays [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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I appreciate the fact that you boys used the thread to tell us about some of your role plays, but neither of you really addressed the core of the original thread: failure to stay in character.

I have had subs complain that many Dommes can't or won't stay in character for the entire role play session. They will start with the premise suggested/requested by the sub, but eventually lapse into their normal persona. That would irritate Me if I were the client. I take a certain amount of pride in My roleplays and put effort into the back story, costume, props, setting, etc. - so when a sub continues to fall out of character, I find it irritating. Especially since he is the one that suggested it.

Maybe these subs are inexperienced in role plays. Maybe they thought it's what they wanted but it just wasn't their thing in the end. Thankfully it doesn't happen often. I have found that giving the sub a bit of a back story to work around in his head for a few days often helps him play his character better - another reason I don't like last minute sessions . . . Thoughts?
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#2003 - 11/29/16 09:55 PM Re: Role plays [Re: OwwItHz]
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#2004 - 11/29/16 10:02 PM Re: Role plays [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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Hmm One phenomenon that I can see happening with some frequency is that a sub fantasizes about a long (anything over an hour) role play. However this ends up being a another example of a disparity between the fantasy in theory and the fantasy in practice. The role play starts off as fun but then around the one hour point the Law of Diminishing Returns starts to kick in and the subspace fades causing the sub to get antsy.

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#2006 - 11/30/16 07:32 AM Re: Role plays [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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Originally Posted By Mistress Ayn


I have had subs complain that many Dommes can't or won't stay in character for the entire role play session. They will start with the premise suggested/requested by the sub, but eventually lapse into their normal persona. That would irritate Me if I were the client. I take a certain amount of pride in My roleplays and put effort into the back story, costume, props, setting, etc. - so when a sub continues to fall out of character, I find it irritating. Especially since he is the one that suggested it.

Maybe these subs are inexperienced in role plays. Maybe they thought it's what they wanted but it just wasn't their thing in the end.


I don't know that it's specifically that the sub is inexperienced with role play, it may be that he's simply inexperienced with the BDSM experience and what it means to have a professional session. You have to be really submissive in order to be a slave for an hour or two, and I just don't believe that there are many who either really are like that or can play that role for the length of a theater play.

I can play a misbehaving or underperforming or irresponsible employee being punished with a spanking, for half an hour, But after that, there just isn't any more to say that I care to listen to. This is why I only visit professionals who are willing to book a half-hour for a single activity session. I consider myself fortunate that I've found a few who will accommodate me. Not everyone will - I have my theory about that, but you won't like it so I won't bring it up here.

I've asked several times what can make a spanking session last an hour, and I get answers like lectures, standing in the corner, multiple positions and implements with frequent breaks, but that doesn't interest me. I can see the same sort of thing with a "generic sub" who wants "to be dominated" - a little bondage, a little whipping, a little spanking, some more bondage, kiss your feet, goodbye. How can anyone tie all of those things together for a significant amount of time? What would the role be?

Do people come to you asking for specific roles? Or do they come to you asking for "a session" and you, perhaps after an exchange or two, suggest roles? Likely some of each, I suppose. What works for you? If I told you I was your employee and I wanted to be punished with a spanking for something I had done at work, how would you fill an hour?
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#2007 - 11/30/16 10:31 AM Re: Role plays [Re: OwwItHz]
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Originally Posted By OwwItHz
I've asked several times what can make a spanking session last an hour, and I get answers like lectures, standing in the corner, multiple positions and implements with frequent breaks, but that doesn't interest me. I can see the same sort of thing with a "generic sub" who wants "to be dominated" - a little bondage, a little whipping, a little spanking, some more bondage, kiss your feet, goodbye. How can anyone tie all of those things together for a significant amount of time? What would the role be?


I wouldn't agree to this type of role play - not with the only kink listed as spanking. I would be bored out of My mind and you are right, how long can you spank someone for pete's sake? This would be about a 30 minute scene as you suggest.

Originally Posted By OwwItHz
Do people come to you asking for specific roles? Or do they come to you asking for "a session" and you, perhaps after an exchange or two, suggest roles? Likely some of each, I suppose. What works for you? If I told you I was your employee and I wanted to be punished with a spanking for something I had done at work, how would you fill an hour?


I never suggest a role play. I find that subs that do, fall into one of 3 categories: the newbie who has had a specific fantasy bumping around in his head and has finally screwed up the nerve to act it out; the almost newbie who wants to spice up his BDSM play by trying a role play; and the role play aficionado that always wants a role play.

I never have problems with the latter because it is just the way they play. They always stay in character even if the Domme they are playing with does not. I get their frustration when the Domme fails at this. I have a sub in DC that I have had an ongoing role play with for years. We even stay in character in our emails between visits.

I seldom have problems with the utter newbie. He has lived this fantasy in his head so many times and he doesn't know any other way to act with a Mistress.

It's probably the middle guy that is most problematic and I never realized it until this point. (Thank you OwwitHz for stirring the pot and making Me put My thinking cap on.) This guy has had a few sessions and thought maybe throwing in an office role play or something similar might add a little friction to his play, but at some point he loses interest or he didn't share enough details to let Me get into his head on this. Who knows, but for whatever reason it just doesn't work and he falls back into slave character.

Originally Posted By OwwItHz
You have to be really submissive in order to be a slave for an hour or two, and I just don't believe that there are many who either really are like that or can play that role for the length of a theater play.


I wholeheartedly disagree with you here. That may be the case for you. You and I have known each other through the forums for years and I have never thought of you as submissive. You only have the one "interest" so I would consider you a fetishist and an outlier, not the norm that visits pros for sessions. My average session is close to 2 hours and I do plenty of sessions that last multiple hours - have even had a few that lasted for multiple days. Quite a few clients report that they only start to fully feel immersed and submissive after the first 2 hours.

My ongoing theory with this (as I have posted here and elsewhere) is that most "subs" that engage with Pros aren't submissive at all. They are simply individuals that find submitting and "letting go" to be a release from their everyday stressors and sometimes it takes a while to get into that mindspace - much like it takes people a few days to start to relax on vacation.
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#2008 - 11/30/16 11:30 AM Re: Role plays [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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Thanks for your thoughts. It's that middle guy who doesn't really know what his limits are, and doesn't have the mindset or theatrical training to be someone he isn't for an hour or more. I guess either they eveolve into more of the sort of client that you enjoy working with, or else eventually fade away, realizing that what they're doing is pretty boring after a while.

As for me, well, maybe I'm an outlier, but fortunately there are a few skilled disciplinarians who understand what makes us spankos tick and have developed the skills and attitudes that are necessary to take care of us. And I expect that many of them would be bored with, and probably don't have facilities for doing a session focused on more mainstream and more varied BDSM activities. And, yes, I'm aware that some work at both ends of the scale. Fortunately when they're in spanking mode, they're happy, and that's what makes it work for me.
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#2022 - 12/23/16 07:19 PM Re: Role plays [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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Registered: 10/27/15
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Loc: California
I like role play in the "Vignette" genre - just a simple little two of three minute thing that either sets the stage for the session or that the session builds up to. Here's a couple of examples I have done

After being bound, I am told that my ex-wife contacted her, and paid for the session and that she said "no safe word" . Session progresses with interjections about what painful things my wife said to do to me etc

Last session of the day for her and I must help her get ready for her hot date that night. "Do you think he will like this red lipstick?" "Pass me the black panties please"

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