I have seen probable 12 professional dommes at public dungeons this year. I am definitely ready for some long term training. I would love to commit to one domme and have her tell me to wear chastity, only think of her and give me tasks to do outside of the dungeon for her.

I even write in my interest "long term training" "Chastity." The dommes I have met are great, but none mention "Spike, you are mine and you need to worship me for 30 minute every morning" for example. I seem to get a good beating and then the dommes move to the next customer.

Again, is it time to move to a more experience private domme? Is this something I'm doing that might turn off a domme seeing my interests about committing and not wanting me?

Thanks!

Spike4848

I'd say yes. It sounds like you'd be far more likely to find this type of continuing professional relationship with an established indy Domme. Dommes at commercial dungeons tend to be younger and more transient.

Read the Domme's website carefully for mentions of longer term chastity etc and don't be afraid to reach out and clearly state what you are looking for.

I would agree. If you are doing sessions monthly you would likely find an independent pro Domme who is happy to work with you on long term training. My guess is you would likely become one of her best regulars. Id just switch from the public dungeons to an established pro and share what your interests are. I think you will find someone.

Commercial dungeons are not a good venue for this. Most of them focus on hourly appointments. A private Dom would be your best bet. You would have to provide a tribute. But, it seems perfectly possible.

Spike, plenty of good advice here. I agree about independent Dominas. You establish a connection. At the stage of my time in the scene, and my age, my longtime under-the-radar Mistress has given me long term training, pushing my limits and buttons within a range she knows will initially stress my out, yet turn me on even more. Her talents are a gift. Good lock!

Hey Everyone!

Thank you so much Junglebeast, Mistress Cheyenne, Spark and Furan. I really, truly appreciate the great advice! I'm fairly new serving pro Dommes and have been navigating the scene alone. But everyone here at the "Buzz" has been amazing. This is definitely the push I needed to start serving an Independent Domme. I'll keep everyone updated if that is okay.

You guys are great!

Spike

Hello spike. I agree completely about seeking out an experienced, independent Domme. The one thing I would add is that you include the magic words "I am willing to tribute for this" when you describe what you are looking for. I have had lots of subs on long term training programs, which meant interaction between sessions. Some paid a monthly fee and others did a piecemeal of calls/video/tasks, etc. All the best in finding what you are looking for.