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#17461 - 07/04/22 08:00 PM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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How much aftercare you need after a session depends on its content. However for me talking after it, whether you consider this aftercare or not is essential. I consider it as part of the connection, and it is as important to me as the session content.

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#17464 - 07/04/22 08:32 PM Re: Aftercare [Re: Komodo]
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I do consider the talking post session to be a sort aftercare and I think most subs need that as a minimum. For Me, that's a given and I always provide it. But . . . there are people that need more than that, regardless of the composition of the session. It's good to know that up front if a sub thinks he needs that.
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#17467 - 07/04/22 11:39 PM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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It is a good question, but probably somebody who has not sessioned with you before and how intense the session is does not know. But probably you do, not before the session but by the end of it. Probably erring on the side of safety is best, and the fact that you think about it shows that you care.

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#17501 - 07/08/22 07:28 AM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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I would say aftercare to me for the first session is a nice thing and should be there but I don't expect much: A basic conversation and letting me sit for a bit in subspace, say.

But if the session isn't a one off but a regular thing, aftercare becomes more important to me because then it's part of the open communication in the relationship. My owner Lady Harleen is very empathetic in her aftercare and I really appreciate it.

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#17537 - 07/15/22 04:12 PM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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i was absolutely shocked by this. having only seen You professionally, i thought Your aftercare was incredible. You do it so well and it seems effortless and natural to You. i suppose that is just an indication of how professional You are. of course, now that You have revealed that You prefer to use up bottoms and toss them away, i don't think that aftercare sounds good anymore. in fact, i think that i'd like to be used up and tossed away, it just sounds so good when You talk about it...

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Absolutely. And many times you have a clue ahead of time what the bottom will need given the planned play. But sometimes I am blindsided by how deep people can go with what I consider very moderate play. I almost hate to say it, but I find giving prolonged aftercare to be tedious. In group lifestyle play I hand my used up bottoms to someone else to nurture. It's a buzz kill for me when I am amped up and just want to keep playing. But sessions of course a different.

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#17551 - 07/19/22 04:01 PM Re: Aftercare [Re: broom]
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Hahaha. Well then, no after care for you!

I think My after care is pretty on spot too. Thanks for noticing ;-)
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#17553 - 07/21/22 08:24 AM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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I would probably say no. Although I do agree if you have a mind blowing session it’s probably good to have. Then again everyone is different.

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#17579 - 07/27/22 05:39 AM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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I enjoy taking Goddess to lunch or dinner afterwards when that is available. It is nice to talk about the session and slowly come back to earth.

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#17582 - 07/27/22 07:13 AM Re: Aftercare [Re: TedBCruisin]
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Back in the day (1999-2006), Mistress Zara and I used to do that. It was wonderful.

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#17595 - 07/27/22 09:52 PM Re: Aftercare [Re: Mistress Ayn]
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Originally I said no. My new Domme that I’m seeing makes me stay for aftercare.

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