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#16682 - 03/06/22 02:11 AM Re: Blurring the Lines [Re: Spark]
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Registered: 11/02/15
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Loc: Philadelphia
Originally Posted By Spark
Over the years Ive developed 2 deep connections with pro dommes that have blurred the line and boundaries and turned into real relationships. ... Anyone else ever have the same feelings either Domme or Sub?


I keep my professional and personal relationships separate. Only with clients I've been seeing for a while (multiple years) is there any venture into personal territory, and even then it's not too deep.

Ethics aside, there are far too many risks when "blurring", none of which are worth it for me.

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#16689 - 03/06/22 07:06 AM Re: Blurring the Lines [Re: Spark]
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Hi Spark:

Excellent post. Yes, I have felt like this. I think boundaries are very important in a prodomme client relationship. Much like the old saying; "good fences make good neighbors," good boundaries make for a solid professional relationship between a Mistress and her client. For years I sought something more than what a professional relationship offers, never realizing that what I had, what I was actually experiencing, was more than good enough. That brought on all sorts of problems and complications. To begin with, I'm married. How "deep" do I really think I can go? Duh. crazy Anyway, these days I approach dommes more like therapists or personal trainers and don't strive to make the fantasy 100% real. It's working out much better this way. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
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#16692 - 03/06/22 08:18 AM Re: Blurring the Lines [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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Its definitely not the norm. In both of my situations we found a connection i started going on dates then we started traveling together non transactionally. Both had trouble accessing the banking system so i was co-signing car loans and apartment leases, putting them as authorized users on my credit card etc

Took a lot of communication to pull it off.

I also found both relationships to be very enjoyable which is one of the reasons i get the urge to go back and reach out but i know that deep down that will ruin the memories.

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#16715 - 03/13/22 05:49 PM Re: Blurring the Lines [Re: Spark]
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Originally Posted By Spark
Both had trouble accessing the banking system so i was co-signing car loans and apartment leases, putting them as authorized users on my credit card etc

Took a lot of communication to pull it off.


Wow. And a lot of trust!

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#16717 - 03/13/22 10:18 PM Re: Blurring the Lines [Re: Mistress Tissa]
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Wow. And a lot of trust!


Yes definitely a lot of trust. This worked to better their life at a time when they needed it. From that standpoint id do it again in a heartbeat.

But they were both young and impressionable and it set unrealistic expectations of a normal relationship that i know neither has ever overcome. No car is worth that. And that is one of my greatest regrets in life. Just because I can pay for something didn’t make it right. But i cant change the past

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