Sub evolution -what was your path?

i was thinking this morning that it would be interesting to learn about the evolution of the other subs on this forum.

i would never write this on any other forum but here for some reason there is a very safe and respectful community where intelligent and thoughtful discussion seems to be the norm.

It seems reasonable to assume that there are lurking subs who frequent this forum and haven't taken that first step to meet a Mistress.

i will post up later my evolutionary path as a sub when i get some more time to write next week but will outline what i was thinking that others might like to share below.

Age when you knew you first were a sub or were "different"

How you found this out

Number of years you have been in the scence

How old were you when you first sessioned and how old do you think you will be when you stop sessioning

Annual frequency of sessions

Do you play around with many Dommes or do you remain with one for years/months

If you changed Dommes why was that?

Your limits how have they changed over time?

What is your current or long term sub fetish that need to be managed in session

Have you suffered physically or mentally from a non respectful Domme who ignored your safe words

If you could start over today what would you do differently

What is your greatest concern about being in the scene?

Please add you own thoughts and addtional questions

Oh goody an opportunity to bring up the topic of phases without starting a new thread.

There are some subs who seem to sing a song whose refrain is "same as it ever was"

I am not one of those

I am going to limit this discussion to my last 6 phases

1992-mid 1995: after a multiyear interregnum I resumed doing sessions These all had a strong component of spanking but had some other elements including quite a bit of roleplay (but I was never one of those lengthy detailed script guys) I was very much into phonesex in this period which was all BDSM related but as the top 1/3 of the time

mid 1995-mid 1998: a period during which my interested in all aspects of BDSM reached a minimum and I again stopped doing sessions (and there was much less phonesex) Developed a very vanilla interest in strip clubs

mid 1998-mid 2006: A period during I did a lot of topping. With only a few rare exceptions this was bare hand on bare behind spanking. Most of it with strippers (some of whom liked to switch)

mid 2006-early 2009: My topside waned greatly as did my interest in strip clubs This was a period wherein I tried a lot of new things (e.g. hot wax) in sessions that had considerably less spanking than in my earlier phases Did less roleplay

early 2009-mid 2011: I call this the "Back to Basics" period wherein most of my sessions were pure spanking This was all as the bottom/sub

mid 2011 up until present Started switching again but only a little Some of my my sub sessions are still pure spanking but others are highly variegated.

Age when you knew you first were a sub or were "different"

Around puberty

How you found this out

Staring at girl's feet!!!

Number of years you have been in the scence

Like one? lol I don't know just started

How old were you when you first sessioned and how old do you think you will be when you stop sessioning

Planning first session soon

Annual frequency of sessions

We'll see, I hope monthly!

Do you play around with many Dommes or do you remain with one for years/months

Hoping to find one special one for repeat sessions

If you changed Dommes why was that?

not yet (see above)

Your limits how have they changed over time?

I think my limits will be anal play and blood play

What is your current or long term sub fetish that need to be managed in session

main fetishes are feet, verbal humiliation, and nylon stockings, also curious about hypnosis too

Have you suffered physically or mentally from a non respectful Domme who ignored your safe words

no

If you could start over today what would you do differently

I am starting today!

What is your greatest concern about being in the scene?

I guess meeting sketchy people. Not looking to go to bad parts of town or find Dommes thru escort service sites.