Preferred grooming for sessions

We (subs) all should know it's important to take care of how we present ourselves for a session, and that we should be showered and clean. But what are some other things we shoul look out for, that Mistresses generally prefer?

1. Cologne/deodorant versus none?
2. Hair styled versus none? (especially if you look more presentable with hair styled)

Good question dominion. Proper hygiene is the absolute most important thing to Me. Nothing is more of a turn off than a sub that smells of sweat or a backside that reeks of well, ass. (Sorry all you FT guys - ass smell is not My thing.)

A shower and a nice soapy finger up the rectum before presenting yourself to a Domme is the minimum. If you anticipate anal play, an enema is in order.

I prefer no cologne. I don't wear any either.

Neatly groomed or shaved pubic area is also appreciated, but we understand that is not possible for some. It sure makes cock and ball bondage and torment easier on everyone.

Thank you for your advice Mistress Ayn.

Ass is definitely an important area to clean, but beyond a finger's depth, how does one ensure it's clean?

Would you also say groin which is trimmed very shortly as good as shaved?

Also, the use of hair products, yes or no?

At the risk of giving TMI (you did ask) - feces gets trapped between the first and second sphincter. It leaks out as the day goes on and creates that "ass smell" I referred to. A soapy finger in the shower until it comes back clean should be part of everyone's daily ablutions, in my opinion. Give it a try.

Trimmed is fine - the main thing I am concerned about is hair caught in cock & ball bondage and stuck in tens pad - that sort of thing. Plus a trimmed manscape is always more appealing.

I prefer no hair products. I am an up close and personal Domme. I may run my fingers through your hair or pull it on a whim. Having a hand full of hair product is not what I have in mind.

Breath is another important thing to take care of. When a Dommes comes in close, you don't want her pulling away and staying away because of halitosis. Bad breath can wreck my enthusiasm for a scene. I have put breath strips on subs tongues before. I'm just sayin.

Related question I think: have any subs groomed their Mistress? Or has a Mistress groomed a sub in session? I was asked by a long term mistress of mine to shave her "down there." It was an honor that she trusted me and I was initially nervous but it became a unique, immense turn on. After I was done a full session began with her being nude from the waist down except for backless high heels. She flaunted her new look and I never got close to that area in that session, and it drove me nuts! (In a good way.) After the session she confirmed what I suspected: she was about to begin a new relationship and wanted a "fresh start" there.

I have an enema and shower 1 hour before each session. Usually remove genital hair 4 or so days beforehand. Quite the prom queen about the whole thing. But I am usually anxious enough without worrying about being unhygienic to boot.

thank you!

the point about breath is very important and often neglected or forgotten i would find.

as for hair products, though some of us may have unruly hair and look less presentable. i guess that is better than letting your mistress have a sticky hand full of hair products.

one last question: do you expect subs to take a shower when they arrive or is it straight into the session?

I expect them to arrive clean and go straight into session unless otherwise negotiated.

I think preparing yourself for your Mistress should be part of the build up for a session - extending the delicious torment and making it even more special when you do meet.

Very much agree. The days or even week before a session can and should be a special time. More like the run-up to a holiday.

Being clean and well groomed, including fresh breath, is just good manners and being a gentleman. Even more so when you are going to be buck naked in front of a woman and expecting her to be in close proximity to you. For cleanliness and grooming, more is always better. One other thing, while I think my cologne smells amazing, I also make sure to not use it if that is a preference stated in a Domme's website.

Glad to hear someone has paid attention to their Domme's preferences!

Proper grooming and hygiene shows your Domme the respect She deserves. i think it also shows Her you are serious about serving Her properly. you should want to present yourself as best as you can. Very recently bathed. A very recent haircut. Fingernails and toenails clean and trimmed. Yes, as stated by Mistress Ayn, if you desire anal play, thoroughly clean yourself back there AND in there. i love being pegged and i want it enjoyable for both. i want the dong being as clean as possible when it comes out. i give myself multiple enemas to ensure this. Just remember to alert your Domme about this. Sometimes a little fluid gets stuck. Alerting Her about that potential prevents an undesired mess on the floor. A towel or pad can be placed on the floor, just in case.

And yes, fresh breath! Have some mints handy to use minutes before arriving to refresh.

your Domme will notice your attention to detail, and She will appreciate it. Pleasing your Domme is paramount, yes?

I have had a couple gentlemen show up smelling like spit and onions.

If you are a slave, please never show up to serve smelling like spit and onions.

Most of the time I don't give myself enemas because I'm not sure if anal play would be involved, and it is so hard to achieve a proper clean. I have been using the cleanser from pharmacies in the past bt didn't want to develop a reliance on it. I wish there were easier ways to clean up.

Spit and onions? WTF?

Proper hygiene is a way to so respect to your Mistress. If you are to give up totally then you should be your best for Her. She is your Alpha and we need to please Her in every way. It's the Doms desires we want to please.

Be very, very clean, as I, the Mistress am. A good men's deodorant, and a good shower. If you want anal play, you do the enema, or else, I will put on gloves, and do it for you. I also prefer no cologne, or, if you must something, very light.I never wear cologne for sessions. I have had two so-called personal slaves who were not clean, and they did not last long at all. I cannot abide body odor on a man. Use mouth wash or brush your teeth right before the session. I am impeccably clean, and I expect you to be so.