Extended Sessions

Would it be your preference to stay in Mistress/slave mode all of the way through or have intervals of play time and relax as equals time? Over the years, I've done both. Straight through for 24 hours or more and I would bring in another Dom to relieve me for sleep but also to take on the role of dungeon monitor. Playing at a deep and intense level for 24 hours or more puts both parties involved in Dom/sub space. I also had a handful of clients that became close friends. We'd to the intervals over a weekend. At times, we'd pick different locations...even renting a boat on a lake that was known to have private coves. The causal play sessions were always a blast. It was usually about two hours of play and two of relaxing together then back it. I've got to say, that was my favorite. Staying in deep headspace for an extended period would take a while to come back down. After a 3 day session that was major intense play, I was left wondering if I'd ever be normal again. After a few days, my client reached out to say that he had an amazing time but was also having trouble getting back to earth. So, my preference is combining real life, real friendship in with intervals of play. Lots of fond memories.

My first reaction is to say stay in Mistress/slave mode for the entire time but the longest session I’ve ever had was 4 hours so I have no experience with anything close to 24 hours or more. I’d love to do it but I highly highly doubt I ever will for both economical and logistical reasons.

Having said that the type of play you describe with breaks in between play sounds like a blast. I think for me it would depend on the Mistress, her preference and our relationship prior to the session. I would love a super intense experience of an extended session but I also like to have fun so I’d like to try both ways.

Fascinating question. I've experienced an evening of play, followed by about 6 hours of bondage overnight and then a brief playtime before release but never 24 hours or longer.


My first inclination would be to say staying in session all the way though but the idea of breaks is also appealing. I've read of doing the latter but with keeping an undercurrents of D/s during the non session time.....going out to lunch or dinner with the sub wearing cock and ball bondage under his clothes.....maybe shopping for gear or perhaps shoes for the Domme?...having the Domme drop subtle hints in conversation or casual references about what might be to come. Although, I think perhaps more play and less downtime than a 50/50 split might be the best compromise.

On balance I think having some breaks would be interesting as it would give you that rollercoaster of anticipation about when things would start again and what might be going to happen next.

OTOH, the idea of secure restraints going on and knowing you are helpless and under her complete control for the next xx hours is also very compelling.

A very long winded way of saying both appeal for different reasons but I suspect having some breaks might be more practical.

Oh, you get me going.

I love long sessions! I have enjoyed multiple sessions for up to over a week, with one single partner or with multiple partners.
The one thing that I have learnt is, long sessions need a lot of planning and preparation, but they never go according to plan, despite all the experiences and the fact that we know each others. And that is perfectly fine!

Usually we switch between intensive play and easier play and also some time off like visiting restaurants...
I have spent a full week in a strait-jacket (4 days of which without interruption and the rest with some breaks).

Overall, the dynamic in a long session is very different. Up to 3-4 hours one can run on endorphins, but not for a week. So what I call "intensive" still is in the realm of keeping the session going. Like breaking skin is a no-go, because the session just doesn't allow for taking care of an open wound.

During such long sessions I always had times where I swore to never do something so crazy ever again.
But in the end I always left it with a big grin on my face!

It is the same for me too. Both are good, in their own way. I know your personal life wouldn't make it easy, but it would be great if you could do that some time.

Oh yeah...especially with the fetishes you've discussed here, a break could be from the intensity but be like foreplay. Shopping for furs and boots can be pricey but, watching Mistress picking out her wardrobe for the next go around and assisting? Hmmm...what would you do on a semi break that still kept you in the headspace?

Love it!!! Exactly my preference, if I had to choose. And, feeling like you'd never do it again...but you do...is not uncommon. I had a client who loved intense play. We'd do 2 hour sessions but after every one, he'd give me the, "I LOVED this but can't do it again. Don't take it personally speech." Then, next month, he'd make an appointment.

Give me the head fuck. Hell yeah! My preference would be a group setting with a designated number of Mistresses and slaves. I'd be quite happy in either role, depending on the dynamics. The causal play sounds like a kinky date. I wouldn't turn that down with the right person. But, for a formal session, sign me up for the intense program.

I know exactly what you mean! I've done some CNC play (carefully negotiated in detail) that left me feeling like that.

I agree completely that the outings can have a strong sense of foreplay. Casual references to what may be to come can keep anticipation at a high level.

Another thing is that a "semi" break as you say doesn't always have to be a stop to all play or an outing. Any easing of intensity etc can be a break. In my case I'm a big fan of bondage so being left for an hour or two in strict restraints and perhaps a hood can constitute a "break" while maintaining the D/s vibe. Maybe something relatively comfortable like a bondage bag or straitjacket? Maybe just in shackles and caged?

That gives the Domme a bit of a break too. With a good quality baby monitor she could go off to another room, get comfortable, have a meal, watch a show, work online....whatever.

"..relatively comfortable like .. straitjacket.."

I do like the straitjacket very much for long sessions, and I agree that it is relatively comfortable... But how comfortable is up to who controls you. When I don't behave, she usually tightens the straitjacket and with time it becomes real torture, all she has to do is wait... eventually it will break you..

My wife and I live interval training. It is a great way to grow old if you gotta. When I put the money together to see a professional, she and I both like it to be formal. It is part of the excitement. Maybe we could push it to 4 hours. 2 is our sweet spot. It would be fun to have a kink weekend, like you describe, with other couples.

In my case, I never explicitly stated, that I wouldn't do any more such session.
Because I have learnt well enough, that the impression during a session or immediately after may be very different that how you think of it a couple days or weeks later.

That is very true. When I was working with a personal trainer, who would kick my butt and seem to enjoy my suffering...I couldn't help but think of the parallels with sessioning. It was a glad it's over but can't wait to go back thing. I don't know if that is the same for you but, it can definitely be a lot of feelings, adrenaline and endorphins running through someone's body at one time.

Yes thanks. I’d love to do it but don’t see it happening but you never know. I’d have to be very disciplined and save for a year or two to start and it would be difficult knowing me.

You've talked about doing lifestyle scene play quite a bit. Are there retreats that lean the way of them weekends? One of my friends went to Camp Crucible a few years back and loved it. Campers planned specific scenes but the overall weekend, as he described, was casual with intermittent, planned play.

You've come a long way since you first came on board here. How is the home dungeon going? Have you had parties or is it just for you and the wife? Congrats, btw.

I would never let myself be tortured by a fitness trainer... that sounds like a turnoff :-)

But fully agree with the feeling of intensity... a good session is better than any drug (not that I have tried them all).