What's a slave gotta do . . .

Just venting, I emailed a Mistress who I have seen a number of times to arrange a session, and by the 3rd day had received no reply. I called to leave a voice mail and the recording said I don't listen to voice mails requests for sessions must go through my email. Arranging a session is like dealing with the government.

You aren't a slave, you are a client of a sex worker.

A client of a professional in a cottage industry.

You aren't going to get Amazon levels of customer support.

Three days isn't a long time, and you can always vote with your money by going somewhere else.

I mean no disrespect and I a mean no insult.

Hi, I realize all that and am very aware of my status. I was just venting and trying to be a little humorous. I'll wait to see if I get a reply.

This brings up a good point of discussion on a cold January day. Subs - how long do you expect to wait to get a reply on a session request email? How far in advance do you normally take to make a request? Mistresses - how long do you normally take to reply to a session request email? What is the optimum time in advance for a request? How much of a difference does it make if it is someone you have already sessioned with or someone new? Of course, we are assuming it is a polite and well written request.

Good luck!

"I mean no disrespect and I a mean no insult."

You may feel that way in your heart but it really comes across as being disparaging. Most doms do not identify as sex workers. Most are healthier than most people with holistic lifestyle choices. I agree that even though sex is not usually involved, a bdsm session is an intimate exchange. But, it isn't cool to call doms sex workers in a blanket statement or refer to them as being a higher risk for disease transmission.

i usually plan 3-4 weeks ahead. By experience, i'm used to have my first message ignored… My usual follow ups 2-3 days later eventally get recognized and i get a vague positve replay (or i have to find another date). Then i do my further planning, travel preparations etc. and give some status updates. As long as my inbox stays empty, i stay optimistic. i have the impression this got worse over the years…

i am a regular since maybe five years - but She doesn't bother replaying timely or at all. But i do adore her - a lot! And maybe this is a kind of humilation or way to torture me, showing me my place. But i HATE this! Deeply!

Did Soapy change their post? I see nothing wrong with what they said. There's nothing disparaging about being called a sex worker. In my opinion, Dominatirces are sex workers no matter how intimate (or lack of). Cam girls are sex workers. Someone who only sells pictures of their feet are sex workers. Even if we do not sell penetration, the experience is -in general- a sexual one and there's nothing wrong with that at all.

I am long fuse sub. I haven't linked to old posts in a while so to make up I am going to link to two that are relevant to this topic:

http://domina.ms/~domroot/thebuzz/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=8899#Post8899

http://domina.ms/~domroot/thebuzz/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=53&Number=254#Post254

Clearly if I get a relatively quick response to an Email I'm impressed. Contrariwise if it takes very long its a disappointment but that is only one moderately important factor to consider in evaluating the dominatrix. That's because I have a long fuse and can afford to wait.

I am with you on this, I never think this way about any mistress I know. But times have changed, we are the old guard, and this is the way they define themselves, mostly with pride. As far as I can tell it is not about a change of the rules of engagement but about recognizing the sexual interest of many of the clients.

Don't be too shy about retrying. Many mistresses lose or miss emails. Voice emails are exceptions, but probably in the situation you were in you should have texted.

I hate being called a sex worker. I don't peddle pussy. I'd be a whole lot richer if I did. I don't have anything against those who do. Dommes and full service providers are totaly different.

Komodo is 100% on this. Emails sometimes don't send or the wrong swipe of the finger and it's gone. Protonmail especially has a knack for not delivering emails.

For my existing clients I would not want to take that long to reply. However, I might if I were sick or on vacation. Do you know if that was the case?

New clients are a different story. Though I try to reply within 24 hours of a scene request, I just sometimes can't get everything done I want in a day.

I understand the voicemail thing. I don't even have voicemail because we don't need it. Just send an email.

There's also the possibility the message was missed or accidentally deleted. You could also send a message to make sure it wasn't lost in the shuffle -- especially if the delay was unusual.