Evolving Interests & Feelings on FemDom

One of my close friends of many years had an occasion to look up his old posts on MF. He lost interest in MF and stopped posting many moons ago but still reads it now and then. So, the discussions are going back almost 20 years. (My, how time flies) He called me, laughing, telling me I should read some of the conversations we were involved in around that time. It is striking how much my interests in fetish activities changed over time.

The most drastic shifts for me over the years was that strap on and ball busting went from being on my no list to the top of my YES list.

How have your interests in FemDom evolved over time? Have you found yourself loving activities that you never thought you would?

Great question... I wouldn't say my FemDom interests have evolved but there have been instances where fetishes I didn't know I had have absolutely been shown to me by Dommes. One was tattoo worship (especially foot tattoos) and lately one Domme has systematically been creating a smoking fetish.

Basically, I have always liked lighting a Domme's cigarette as a service thing (which made me start to carry a lighter whenever I was serving). Then, this Domme, would have me run out and buy her cigarettes for her. Then, she started having me not just use the lighter to light them but would have me get it started for her by lighting it in my mouth (which meant the first puff as well). Finally, this past visit, she put on this erotic show while ordering me to get on my knees & masturbate to her in an adjacent room... With part of the show being her smoking in a very sensual way.

On the flip side, however, I have had an extremely similar experience with sadism as you did with strapon. My sub is a huge painslut who loves degradation, bruises and marks (I am the polar opposite in my own submission). At first, I just couldn't bring myself to do things to her that I hate myself. However, over time, her amazing reactions to my brutality has made me enjoy being incredibly sadistic and cruel with her, which I never thought was possible. i have no idea if this would translate to my playing with another sub but my perspective had definitely changed over the time we have been together.

When I got into the fetish scene my only interest was as a bottom for OTK. That gradually grew into liking just about everything. In recent years, I've shifted from primarily bottoming to topping. So, yeah, my interests have evolved greatly over the course of about 10 years.

My interest has always been along the lines of foot and leg fetish. I've submitted to other activities and enjoyed them. But, it is always about a beautiful woman's feet and legs for me. I have a one track mind.

I think that the natural evolution as we age is from pain to pleasure and from physical to cerebral. Which reminds me of the definition of middle age, that part of your life where you try to prove that you are still as tough as you never were.

It is good to hear you are having fun and exploring. I so much agree that a sub's reactions are very motivating. It is almost like activity aside, it is all about the connection and responses.

I've known a lot of tops that have gradually gotten into primarily topping. Do you feel it makes you more empathetic of an top?

You're making miss my personal slave from years ago. He served me for about 5 years. We still stay in touch. He was all about feet. It was a blast. It still feels weird to pay for a pedicure.

"Which reminds me of the definition of middle age, that part of your life where you try to prove that you are still as tough as you never were."

LOL.

Cock & Ball trample was definitely scary and NO. I like ballbusting, but standing and grinding on cock/balls looks too much!

Today, it's a YES PLEASE! CAN I HAVE SECONDS?


With right pro-domme, it's very intoxicating. Each domme does it bit differently and most don't have trample boards. I prefer only with bare feet, it's less dangerous and I like feeling her soles.


However, my non-pro domme is absolutely thrilled with it! I don't scene with her often. She is more sadist and more female-supremacy type than usual. Her stomping made me quit more than twice. If I'm extremely horny, and her temptation teasing got to me. I'd get under that trample board. She isn't afraid to put weight on them and continue grinding them after I'm "done" to show who's boss.. "You got your reward, grow a pair and take this".

I definitely evolved. Foot worship was first, but not a fan of shoe or boot worship. Now I love feet, the smell, being on the floor craving the Mistress’ approval of my work and the whole intimacy of it. I stumbled into being a switch via role play, but by the end of any session I revert back to being a sub. Butt plugs and strap on worship is now something I crave. Never liked it as a young man. I crossed that line with a Mistress who was intersex. Fascinating.

Golden showers… have done it with two Mistresses I knew for years. I crave it only with them. A bit of sipping but mostly feeling her warmth on my torso and groin, being told what a slut I am. And finally public play, in a park, on the waterfront, in a hotel stairway or lobby, and even in parking lots, with the heavy turn on of being discovered. Either very early in the AM or at night.

My fetishes have definitely changed over the years. Ive moved much more into pain than anything else and id describe myself more as a bottom than a submissive or a slave.

The one fetish i have picked up recently that i an really surprised about is ballbusting. But i think i do it a little different. I dont like being ball busted in session. I like it out of session when I'm not expecting it. For example, this past weekend i was in Chicago on vacation with my Domme we woke up she rolled over and punched me right in the balls. The pain was intense. But for whatever reason we both crack up in laughter at the shock and surprise of those completely random unexpected moments. It keeps me on my toes and has definitely become my new kink. Im not sure how i can laugh at such intense pain but we are having a lot of fun with it.

I'm in the camp of those, like you, whose interests have evolved. I've been playing for roughly 40 years and what was once on my never list (golden shower consumption, canes, ass worship) are now on my favorites list. I've slowed down a lot over the years and am dealing with health issues right now that's put play on hold. I keep thinking the itch may go away, but so far, it hasn't gone anywhere, but it has evolved.

From being on MF every day and sessioning often to only dabbling every now and then. Of course I've evolved as everyone else has. I cannot say that I've changed too much in interests and/or widening them. But I did mature to the point that I was no longer embarrassed and came right to the point on things. It makes the familiarization period shorter and leads to a better session.

Like a few other posters here, I've been winding down. Aging a bit with the attendant health concerns. But it's always been about quality in the end.

Yup... Hate it when they go for quantity and it's one 16" strap-on after another...

Asp

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Sorry bcd... Couldn't resist the smartass response

Not a worry. It's all in good fun.