Humor or Drama in Sessions

For the most part, I was always drawn toward intensity and drama in session. The lighting, the sound of my heels clicking on the hardwood floor, prolonged anticipation, surprises....all of it and more. When my client left exhausted, I knew we'd both had a great experience.

However, I fondly remember more light hearted sessions that were an absolute blast. One of my favorite clients loved spy role play. He send a story line prior to our session. Some of the plots were so cheesy but, once we got into it, so much fun. We once played a married couple who were double agents and Jean Bardot was our nemesis. I kept giving up secrets to Jean that would increase his punishment. He said, "Honey?!!" The tone was just too cute and we all cracked up. We did a similar seen with Mistress A'IE. It was always something new.

Do you like your sessions with intense drama, more on the light side or a bit of both?

I would say I like my sessions intense. It’s just my personality with most activities. I never thought of it as drama but I like leaving exhausted. I like feeling fear and being kept off balance although there’s definitely been times during session when I’ve wondered why I am doing this to myself. Especially as I get older. I’ve enjoyed some lighter moments in session where we laughed but really I like to be in deep sub space as much as possible.

I definitely prefer drama though on rare occasion a spontaneous flash of humor has been entertaining.

I wouldn't like slap stick comedy. But, a few sly tricks and a sinister laugh I can take. Predicament bondage is good for that. My girlfriend likes to laugh at me when I discover I can loosen this but then I realize that gets tighter.

Once I was late for a session. I hadn't stopped to call to let the Mistress know. When I knocked at the door, she answered in head to toe latex. She was a tall lady on her own. With the boots, she was towering over me. She asked who I was. When I gave her my name, she said, "You can't be Ted. Ted was supposed to be here 10 minutes ago." I didn't know how this was going to go. At the time it was only intimidating. But, after I got home and out of subspace, I found it to be very funny. She was fucking with me through the entire session and had to be laughing to herself about it.

I do like the heel sound on the hardwood floor and anticipation, but never get into the submissive side of things or role play. I just like the fetish aspect of women in BDSM attire or sometimes workout clothes where it's more laid back and I just want to see them in a sports bra or bra with a strapon and focus on activities during the session rather than a specific tone. Not too laid back to where they're asking what I like and if something is okay though.

Has that been hard to find for you? Most of the doms I've worked with over the years, like the overall escape from reality into 100% FemDom vibe. But...let me guess. Your session experience is in LA or NYC? For whatever reason, those cities seem to have their own FemDom world going on. I noticed you mentioned Mistress Tangent in another thread. She has shot with my web site a few times. She is one of ClubDom's favorite ladies to work with. What an awesome lady.

Yes, in LA, SF, or NYC, and somewhat in Atlanta too. It's usually when I travel, so I also normally don't see the same domme more than once, but I'd be open to that and may do that as I might move soon and be in a larger city or closer to one.

It's usually like a try a domme out type thing or more of a fetish mood type thing as in today I'd like to try a Hispanic domme out or maybe now I'd like to try this one out who calls herself a Satantrix just to see what that feels like.

I have seen though that in LA, after seeing 3 dommes there who are part of the same collective that each session was top notch, so I do think there's some benefit to using clubs/collectives as I think there's a good training component that goes on and an interest in not having anyone who isn't up to caliber that brings the group reputation down.

So do you still do sessions?

I can see the Atlanta scene having the flexibility that a larger city like LA or NYC does. There are so many amazing ladies to visit there.

My late husband had a similar attitude. He just loved anything that involved women beautiful and fetish play...from vampires to wresting and anything in between. He was quite the femdom connoisseur, with whatever crossed his mind at the moment. He was a shameless slut. Lol.

I've been retired from sessions for a good while now. If I was still working full time, I'd never have the time to goof off here like I do.

While my sessions can sometimes be intense. They often have a playful tone from both me and the Domme and i love moments of unscripted humor.

Perhaps one of the best i can think of was recently when my domme walked into the bedroom of the house we were renting together wearing a massive strap on. She grabbed the back of my head and tried to say “suck my dick bitch” but couldnt get it out without laughing. A few more unsuccessful tried and i lost it as well. By about the tenth try of bursting into laughter we gave up. She said she was sorry. I told her i live for those moments.

My sessions have always involved role play. No matter the pre-arranged scenario - never scripted, always ad libbed dialogue - they usually involved costuming, faux punishment (maybe slight discomfort), seduction and maybe semi-public play, performed in usually high melodrama. From the outside looking in this usually put the submissive, yours truly, and sometimes even the Mistress involved in some ridiculous positions and situations.

When you mix that with being a regular of more than a few great and imaginative Mistresses over the years who I got to know well and had a chemistry with, sometimes just a look, a certain line or an equipment or "wardrobe malfunction" from either one of us usually resulted in some smart ad libbed remark by me, the Mistress involved, or both of us. It made the session a lot more fun and memorable.

Let's face it, in the anticipation of a session with your favorite Mistress when you are in deep subspace (and lust) you may be thinking of what will happen in terms of high drama. But in reality sometimes a naturally occuring laugh or two can take a scene to new heights. It has for me.

I’m really into a mix. A good scene to me will involve some lighthearted teasing and wry humour but will also have an element of “the iron fist in a velvet glove”. Interacting with a Domme who is a bit quicksilver and capricious can be a real turn on.

Humor is the gusto of life! I have always incorporated it in my sessions.

Here's a little humor... Try not to shit talk this forum over at the Hang.

Having a grand total of 4 posts so far today in all lobby threads is hardly “active”. Lamenting about how little traffic there is both here and on MF is hardly “shit talk”

While usually prefer more serious sessions. I used to see this Domme that was of Mexican background. So one time she decided to speak Spanish to me saying all kind of bad things to me. It just happens so that I can understand Spanish well. Of course I burst out laughing at one point cause I just found it funny. At first she didn’t know why then she figured it out. We had a good laugh about afterwards.

That is funny! Out of curiosity, how did you come up with your screen name? I'm going to guess that it was from the movie Pulp Fiction.

Actually I saw it on another BDSM board. Although Yes I do think of PF though with the name.

I prefer the drama. A wee bit lightness blended in can be okay, but high drama is preferred.