Too Old?

The "Too young" thread over on Maxfisch got me thinking about the other side of that question.

What is "Too old"? is there an age?....for a Domme?....for a sub?

In terms of Dommes About 10-15 years ago I played with a semi retired Domme up in mid coast Maine who I believe had been quite well known in the Boston area in the late 70's, 80's and 90's. I have no idea of her age at the time but I suspect maybe 50's (she had allowed her hair to go naturally grey).(EDIT Her website is long gone bur I found her profile on Fetlife and she gives her age as 65....still looks great!}
She was trim,fit and quite beautiful. The session was one of the better ones that I have experienced and included just about the best transition from pre-session chatting into play mode that I have ever enjoyed.

I certainly know as a sub of a "certain age" some activities are no longer on the menu due to joint issues and steadily declining flexibility frown but the urge to play is as strong as ever.

I started the "too young" thread on MaxFisch and I've had too much wine and it's pretty late... so here goes. What I meant was, who is "too young" to session with if you are a sub or a Domina? I'm over 60 now. There is no way I'd session with a Domina under 35... maybe 40. Love 'em but I can't session with ladies the age of my daughters or nieces. Just me. Having another sip of vino and going to bed. LOL! Bye.

I've been fortunate to have some great older clients. It's nice to play with subs who've been sessioning longer than I've been alive. I'm also glad to see Mistresses my grandmother's age still going strong.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vlC2AXe9-pk

Are you referring to Mistress Papillon?

Some additional comments, if I may. In my thread on maxfisch I mentioned my first Mistress was over 50 (after checking her bios online recently) and I was 20. The Mistress was the legendary Belle de Jour of Manhattan. Whenever I re-entered the scene, and I did that a lot from the '70s to the '90s I'd either try to have a session with her (it happened a couple of times in the mid-'80s) or follow her recommendations of ladies working for her. I trusted Belle.

One late Saturday morning in the early '90s I called her dungeon and was surprised to hear her voice. I hadn't seen her in several years. I immediately asked Bell to session with me. Belle said no, but to come in because she had someone for me. About an hour later I was there and she looked great. I kinda charmed my way into having her session with me. I was 40 or so, she had to be 70 and Belle was as hot as ever.

It is true that age is a number. But I have a thing about not sessioning with women under 35 or 40.

Yes, I sessioned with her at her place in Maine about 10-12 years ago..........had a great experience.

We were probably in New England around the same time. I had a studio in Rhode Island back then. Papillion was very well thought of in the local scene. I still remember her DDI ads. How time flies when you are having fun!

Maybe I'm a perv, but I could either way on this. It depends on the experience I'm looking for at the moment.

I don't really have a hard and fast rule on younger Dommes but given my preference for lots of gear, great studio space and a certain reputation most of the people I play with tend to be well established and thus of a certain age.

Until recently Ive always sessioned with someone close to my age. Its gotten harder as i got older.

I now just session with one person and she is significantly younger. We get along very well. I guess age is just a number.

I hope i never get too old to session.

I truly like being dominated by dommes 40+. They tend to go easier on me because I'm significantly younger.. But eventually I find a ruthless cold-hearted, ball-busting, cock-hater. Easier to find a manhater on fetlife than professional setting.

It's my fault for being attracted to them, but I can't help it. TPE, hard repeated kicking, slapping, squeezing, genuinely forced to cum and saw hint of blood on her hand and floor, continued ballbusting AFTER cumming - I felt like I was going to die. Penis-fracture and almost castrated on a "trampling board" sending me to ER, all made me stepped back from the scene years ago.

I trust pro-dommes on domina.ms for my safety, more than fetlife. But my circle had "sadists", female-separatists and female-supremacists and dominants with personal issues of males.

All depends on your circle. You can find gentle dommes or sadistic dommes.

When in doubt, look at her close friends. It reflects her personality.

I have never considered age when choosing a Domme so I've never really analyzed it. However when looking back I was surprised because I don't think I have ever sessioned with a Domme who was older than me at any given time. On the other hand, I have seen many of about the same age.

For those Dommes who I frequent and have a real connection with, I have no upper limit on age. There are more than a few I would love to continue seeing for the rest of our lives, even if that also puts them in their mid-80s or 90s. My lower limit is around 20 but I do put a lot of stock in a few years of experience as a Pro so it's rare I end up playing with someone so young.

For me as a client, I won't stop until I am unable to session so I can't pick a number. Like furfan, some very physically taxing activities may be added to my limits because I can no longer handle them. But its going to take a really long time before I won't be able to do lighter activities such as body worship, non-predicament bondage & humiliating service (cross-dressing, GS, etc...) as examples.

p.s. Sorry to anyone who considers this to be a zombie thread by my posting to it.

I didn't notice this topic when it came up. Like you, I never thought about age when booking a session. I wouldn't want to session with a woman that is my daughter or mother's age. Aside from that, attractiveness, skills, quality of dungeon, interests and the manner in which the Mistress conducts herself in per-session discussions. A few years from my own age, on either side, I wouldn't even think about.

I guess I am conservative but I like zombie threads. I saw so many threads years old much more interesting than most of what I read now. Besides this was less than two months old.

The first domme I met was considerably older, experienced, patient and a great way to start. The second much younger than me and a disaster.

However I think I can safely say that all mistresses I will meet will be younger than me. Heck, I doubt how many mistresses older than me are in the business.

Ahh, DDI. One of the better things to look at in the pre and early Internet days. It said quality with it's sleek photos and ads.

Yea... I've gotten to that age too