Not so Public -Public Play

My girlfriend and I went to dinner last night. Just as we were leaving she handed me an electrical collar that goes around my nuts and dropped the remote in her purse. Then she made a point to get dressed in front of me so I could see she was wearing thigh highs with no panties under her dress. There was some fun going on number the table. It just happened that our waitress was hot. I didn't think I was into humiliation but trying to order while getting shocked in the nuts while the gorgeous waitress kept looking at me funny, wondering what the fuck was wrong with me, while my girlfriend was shocking me and running her stocking foot up my leg was hot as fuck. Does anyone else like discreet public play?

I have experimented with it a few times with mixed results.

Scooby, I'll put it this way. I've done it different ways, without electronics. I PM'ed you.

Fun topic! I've enjoyed play much like what you are describing, in one form or another. One experience, that comes to mind was with a client/friend who was into humiliation and age play. I buckled him in the backseat of my car and drove him to a restaurant along the lines of Olive Garden. I had a diaper bag full of toys, a bib and a sippy cup. I privately told the server, who happened to be an attractive young lady, that my friend was a little simple. Our lunch was pretty much what you'd expect with a mother and her three year old, right down to cutting up his food. The server brought him a balloon. We had fun and didn't seem to bother anyone. But, on the way out, the waitress gave me a half smile as if to say, "Yeah, right, you goofballs."

If you are comfortable, I'd love to hear more. Did the success of the experience seem to be about who you were with or what you were doing?

That is funny, especially how the waitress was subtly called you on it at the end.

I've never experienced it as you describe but it is certainly something I have thought about. I know several Dommes (MTO, Mistress Servalan) discuss this type of play on their websites as being an available option as part of an extended session. I think being out to dinner or shopping while wearing discrete gear under your clothes would be very hot.....even more so if you had the anticipation of a session to follow.

The idea of sharing a secret with a Domme can be very hot. I can remember turning down a golf invitation one time while my wife was in earshot by telling someone "Sorry, I can't. xxxxx is cracking the whip and I'm going to be tied up all day Saturday with home front stuff"....gave me a great little flutter saying it and it added to our anticipation.

To clarify there were none (so far) that were total failures but some worked much better than others.

I am a switch and my earliest experiences were with a stripper who was a switch. So roughly half of the time I was the top. At first it was inside her club but at her suggestion we started playing in the public outside the club.

My public play experiences since then have only been with Dommes.

I am disinclined at this time to go into details about these adventures. However I did post a review in 2019 of an experience that included some public play:

http://domina.ms/~domroot/thebuzz/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=3510#Post3510

I am not into enema play but, the overall physiologically of your session with Mistress Natalie was hot! That would be a tough one to top.

discreet public play drives me wild but ive never done anything as cool as you describe

Just going shopping with my girlfriend/dominatrix wearing thigh high boots is enough to get me in the mood. We often joke that people probably confuse the power dynamic between us. But Its enough that i know if people look for the clues they are there.

A few weeks ago we went shopping. Mostly vanilla stuff clothes, shoes etc. but we also bought some kink stuff. High end cuffs and a paddle. Afterwards we stopped for lunch. I took the opportunity to discretely pull those items out. My GF/dominatrix was slightly embarrassed telling me to put it away. In that moment the waitress walked up cracked a smile and asked for our drink orders. Afterwards she leaned over and said “im going to destroy you for that”. I could have left right then. The unscripted nature of that moment as well as the change in power dynamics, i was the one who was embarrassing her in public and then the fact that she took that power right back made that moment unforgettable for me.

Exchanges like that are so hot. It is definitely sweet to have femdom in a personal relationship. Pro sessions are fun as hell. But, mixed into every day life like your and your girlfriend/Dom's shopping trip, are priceless.

That sounds totally fucking hot!! I'm not sure what the complaint is. Was the food ok?

Hehe! That's hilarious.

So... A couple of these that come to mind...

I've had a dog shocker collar wrapped around my nuts in public. My wife took me to a bar. She'd periodically shock me for fun. Sadly, she wasn't as into it as I hoped.

She sure as shit loved using the shocker when she had me locked in chastity, with my ankle chained to the wall in the closet. Apparently she wanted some alone time in our bed so she could watch porn and masturbate.

Periodically, she'd zap my nuts to hear me yelp in pain, and she didn't unlock me until the next morning.

And just being locked in chastity in public seemed to happen a lot - I suppose that falls under Not so public - public play.

Except for the night she took me to a gay bar and told anyone who would listen that she kept my penis locked in a cage.

That sounds pretty damn hot for her not to be into it.

Ooooh! This is one of my favorite activities! I'm very into WeVibe and Lovense's toys for this exact reason, as they're app-controlled and can be controlled from any distance. There are other subtle forms as well, such as taking My foot/heel fetishist out on a shoe shopping trip and having them put the shoes on My feet.

I'd never heard of WeVibe or Lovense until now. I'm glad you posted this. Why do I sense an online shopping spree coming on?

Closest experience to public play was having a domme session with window not fully closed. But there wasn't many people traveling through that area.



To real life non-BDSM public play.. Did some flashing before I knew it was "wrong"..

There was a hiking trial, where I wore a winter beanie hat with eye-holes cut out. Yoga instructor, a teacher, gym trainer, martial arts instructor - she chased me for awhile, I was terrified.

Previous year, a camp counselor or vice-warden saw me naked in the showers. That real CFNM really did it for me. The fastest way to develop CFNM fetish is experiencing it during early teen years. Ballbusting + CFNM also happened that year, but I honestly feel embarrassed about sharing it.

Right? Seems to not make sense.