What Do You Get out of Chasity

As a young dom, I couldn't get my head around it. When one of my slaves expressed an interest, I suggested we do the opposite. This was back in the day of pagers. At any time of the day, I would page him and demand he excuse himself from whatever he was doing and find a private place to jerk off. Eventually, I agreed to try holding his key to see if I could find amusement or reason to it. I found it to be a fun power trip. I'd call him at work and dangle the keys in the phone. I'd wear his key on my ankle bracelet at a fetish party where he was serving. It was a good time.

What is it that you do or don't like about this type of play?

I like a Domme taking control of me in various ways, including my orgasms, so I like both of the things you described (as well as ordered edging) rather than just chastity as part of orgasm control play.

What I hate about it in my personal play is that the devices don't work on me and have an outsized effect on daily life (i.e., just trying to use the bathroom) when I do wear them on a limited basis. I have the personal discipline to not cheat because what is the point of the play if you do that, but some Dommes think it's a pointless exercise without being physically locked without a way to unlock yourself (even to just reset the device).

However, what makes me flinch with instant hatred is the way it is portrayed on the internet (mostly by fantasists and findumbs) as something central to any D/s relationship.

I believe that a visit to lady such as your self is a way of being in a situation that the visitor no longer controls.
The chastity thing is an extension of the helpless feeling.

For me I was frustrated that I was never really out of control.
This is compounded by a high pain threshold so I never really got what I wanted.

The thread on the Girlfriend - Domina relationship brought wonderful fantasies. That is chastity and impact play.

C123

I like it as an ever-present reminder of Mistress' control and power over me.
But it is impractical for life outside of sessions. A bit awkward in the showers at the swimming pool. So best left for the sessions only in my case.

I did a lot of chastity play up until recently (more on that in a minute)

At first it was the uncertainty of when i could orgasm and giving up control to my mistress. My chastity would typically range from 7-15 days.

But then what i found was the orgasms were out of this world intense. Chastity wasnt a punishment any longer it was a short amount of abstinence for one of the best feelings in the world. The trade off was well worth it.

However i haven’t done any chastity play in about 6 months. The reason is I've developed a pretty serious relationship with a professional domme. Its a blend of kink and vanilla. and the frequent sex feels better than anything. I dont think i could hold out if i tried at this point.

Thanks for sharing. This is interesting. I had never thought of release after an extended period of time being more intense but it certainly stands to reason. As far as the blend of kink and vanilla, my late husband and I had that too. It is a cool combination and a wonderful, but all too rare find, to be with someone who can share both with you. Fun thing is...if one day your girlfriend wants to try something new, she can always put you back in chastity for a week. After being together for about a year or so, my husband and I would play with chastity on and off. Being into kink opens the door to so much more when it comes to intimacy. Never gets boring with someone you love.

I hear you about it being portrayed as central to a Ds relationship. Unless both are enthusiasts and that is their joint fetish, it is a pretty hollow relationship if one partner believes chastity is the glue that holds them together. Yes, devices can get bulky and impractical. There was a company, years back, that made custom made welded devices that worked amazingly well. Sadly, the man who made them passed and the company closed their doors. There are cool short term devices. But, that was the only long term that I am aware of.

Interesting. How can you truly be out of control when being in control of booking a session and knowing that it isn't as if you've been kidnapped with no discussion of limits? Do you feel as if you and others with those types of fantasies actually want that or it is better off just left as something to "Entertain" when the thoughts cross your mind?

The impracticality of a device does limit how free you can be with it. I knew a sub and dom who would do months on end with chastity play. He would come to her for a session and to be anally every few weeks. That was interesting because his body would release but he couldn't feel it in an orgasmic way. It must have been a thrill for him to have to wear an encumbrance device for so long. When you say that you like a chastity device in session, is this an hour long session or extended? Are you allowed to release before leaving?

i think that i'd love to have You as a my Mistress!

I actually prefer no release in session or immediately afterwards, so I have never sought that permission. I value the pleasure and excitement of being horny over long time higher than a release, which is ten seconds of intense pleasure followed by losing interest in the whole play situation.

So wearing a chastity device for a typical two hours session does not stop me doing something I otherwise would. The function of the device on me is really only as a symbol of Mistress' control and dominance.

You are sweet.

Mistress, first off I agree with Worm.

About the subject I have experienced, oh how can I put it, "alleged" chastity via phone or text. With one Mistress who lived on the West Coast and I would see two, three times a year we would talk about session planning or a day or two after a meeting; her travels; or her marketing / vanilla business I might help her with. She had an almost announcer-like voice and very seductive. If I was too quiet at some point, or made a suggestive reference, the Mistress came out in full force: "Stop that right now!" or, "Text me tomorrow for further instructions." Sometimes she would say, "Well, I have an appointment and must go." I would sometimes say, "Mistress I have one more question..." and she would cut me off and say, "You have my permission. Text me immediately after you are done."

She was controlling my pleasure across country. She knew it, I knew it, and I was possibly in the deepest subspace of my life. All without equipment, just imagination.

I think it is possible to negotiate a session where the client agrees to have no control beyond the broad discussion of the session in general.
For example cross dressing and adult baby do nothing for me. If that were the basis for a session the rest is in scope.
In my case, harsh corporal is something that is difficult to achieve.

The negotiation is necessary for legal reasons


C123

For legal reasons? Someone is going to file a complaint because they were put in diapers instead of a latex bondage straps? "Negotiation," if it can even be called that, is necessary to see if people are compatible before accepting the appointment. Femdom is all about mutual fun. It isn't like hijacking a plane and taking hostages.

No! There have been stories of a domme suited because it was harsher than the client thought.

What I am saying the basis of the session needs to be established.

For example (hypothetically) if I were to ask you for a harsh corporal session on the basis that I could not opt out after showing up for a session. Plus other things form your list of interests, would you proceed with the session.

It is just a question, I appreciate that you may not working at this time.

C123

Who has been used because the session corporal sessions was harsher than expected? I'm not disagreeing with the basis of a session being laid out beforehand. I wouldn't have accepted a client otherwise. But lawsuits over it? There are some nutty lawsuits and ambulance chasers out there. Maybe it has happened. I find the thought of someone suing over not having a session they liked .... well, silly. It would make a great SNL spoof.