Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time?

Posted by: Blu

Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 07:03 AM

Basically being assertive and confident in their interactions with other people?
Posted by: Cheyenne

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 08:56 AM

Most of my clients fit that description. Enjoying submissive play and even a submissive lifestyle, doesn't take away someone being assertive or confident. At least, in the 20 years I spent in the FemDom business, I never saw that in anyone I knew.
Posted by: John_Bolton

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 09:54 AM

Yeah, definitely. I don't think I'm even submissive in sessions as in sure, I go along with letting a woman put my hands in restraints on a cross and perform cbt, but I never really feel like she's a superior or that I want to be a slave to her. I just enjoy seeing an attractive woman in domme attire perform. I especially love when they put on their strap on harness and adjust it and put a dildo in there. It's just really hot.

Outside of that, i am the dominant one in relationships with women, they'd never know this side of me. I am the one to tie them up, gag them, choke, spank, etc.
Posted by: Blu

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 10:23 AM

Hi, thank you.

So when a mistress in her about me page says that women are superior to men and they expect your complete devotion and expect you to do whatever they say, do they mean only for the duration of the plays with their clients and even so by respecting their safe words or do they really mean it?
Posted by: Blu

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 10:40 AM

Hi

I am still very confused. BDSM for me is like a parallel universe that I never knew existed and now that I know it exists and what I want to get from it I still don't know what it really is. Is it all or nothing like the blue pill/red pill story of Matrix or is it something that I can enjoy with a dominatrix whenever I want and to engage only in activities that I (and her) want to do in the session?

Thanks.
Posted by: Spark

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 11:37 AM

I would say that i am confident in my everyday life as well as the Femdom play that i engage in.
The way i interact with the Mistresses i session with is very similar to how i act in real life. I I don’t necessarily think im submissive in my vanilla life but i do treat people with respect and compassion which probably to some extent comes from my submissive side. I believe you can still be assertive and confident but maintain these traits.
Posted by: John_Bolton

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 01:35 PM

Originally Posted By Blu
Hi, thank you.

So when a mistress in her about me page says that women are superior to men and they expect your complete devotion and expect you to do whatever they say, do they mean only for the duration of the plays with their clients and even so by respecting their safe words or do they really mean it?


It's all business to them. They realize some men truly believe it and other men obviously know that men are physically stronger than women, but obviously I'm going to choose a domme who at least presents/gives the illusion that she embraces the superiority role. Obviously I would not want to see a woman who expresses she is not confident playing the role of a dominant, but will do it anyways/try it.

I basically already know what I am paying to pick the menu of items that will take place, can put in an attire request (never cared much about the attire though), and generally have a good say in the session time.
Posted by: The Thomas

Re: Anyone here who is submissive in their sessions but not any other time? - 09/10/20 07:48 PM

Originally Posted By Blu
Basically being assertive and confident in their interactions with other people?


I fit that categorization