Deposit percentage

There are two Prodoms that I am interested to session with but the deposit seems somewhat risky on their behalf. One wants 50% and another wants the entire session prepaid through cash app or Venmo. Receiving $300 or $600 through one of these apps must cause red flags.

Wanted to see what others have seen

The amounts themselves -- 50% or pre-pay in full -- aren't necessarily unusual at this point, but I would be wary if the Domme is new or unknown.

You're right in that those processors are a risk because they both are explicitly anti-adult. Whether that amount causes a red flag is hard to say. I really have no idea what the average transaction is or how often people send those amounts, so it's possible it doesn't send a flag.

I have never used Venmo, but I have used Cash. Cash's deposit into your account is immediate. So, in theory, even if the amount was flagged, it should still hit her account and not held by Cash or be lost in some digital space.

If you have personal concerns, you could also ask if there are any other options.

Personally I ask for 20% deposit, but everyone's different.

Look through their websites, their social medias, etc and google them. Really do your research and then make the call.

I have been able to avoid deposits because I have been doing this long enough to have acquired some very Domme references.

However, I would not object to a Domme's request for a reasonable deposit and 20% is certainly a very reasonable request. I can't imagine any serious and well intentioned client objecting to that deposit requirement. That's very reasonable, especially for a Domme with your experience and reputation.

I had never paid a deposit til this year. But the two dommes were from the same group that I had a session with someone from before in LA, so I was okay with it. It was $100 deposit and the session was $300 total cost. With one, I did pay via cash app using a different email for anonymity, but for the second person, I checked and asked if I could send an Amazon gift card. I can buy these in store and send the card info via email, so I like being able to remain anonymous. It's very important.

I am more okay now with paying a deposit because it means i'll actually show up and won't make the mistake of jerking off too close to the session time and backing out/losing interest. I'm surprised they all don't charge deposits.

I charge a small deposit, $50 per booked hour. I use Cash App, Amazon gift card, or Visa/ Mastercard gift card. I have had many clients want to pay the entire tribute via Cash App, and it never causes a problem on either end. I regularly receive over $500 payments on Cash App, and I have never been "red flagged". I love Cash App!

If Cashapp is free, what is the hidden cost? I don't think someone like Jack Dorsey just creates an app like that out of the kindness of his nonexistent heart. What is he using the data for?

50% is enough higher than everyone else asks, that I'd go back and really really make sure I did my homework that this domme is legit. 100% deposit is probably a complete non-starter for me.

Separately, lots of people doing transfers through these apps without issue. Just make sure the memo doesn't say something like, "deposit for my sex session with a professional sexworker" and it'll be fine, IME 🤣

You can figure on $50 per hour or 25% of the total as deposit is pretty much standard. No complaints from me.

If a person has no references I will charge up to 30% of the session fee. As others have said, always make sure who you are dealing with is reputable prior to sending anything.



I depends on the history of both parties. If it's the first transaction or two for either party they will likely block anything over $200, but you won't lose your money. The transaction will simply be cancelled. When I first started using both apps I had some difficulty with this, but only in the beginning. Once I had a few lesser transaction under my belt everything started going though just fine even with higher amounts.

There is a fee if the receiver wants the money transferred instantly to their bank. Otherwise the companies hold onto your funds for a couple of days before sending it the free "standard" way and they make money by using your money for free during the float.

Cashapp makes most of their money by charging businesses, not individuals. Being free to individuals makes it widely popular which then puts pressure on businesses to spend the money to use it.

From a Domme's POV, are any of the vendor apps preferred - venmo, cashapp, paypal, amazon card, giftrocket?

I'm totally agnostic, and just want to go with the one that is the least hassle and skims the least from the recipient.

And to extrapolate a step further...

Would one of those vehicles be preferable to NF and onlyfans? Say one was planning to have a call (or to offer a tip on onlyfans). Is it better to just ask for the call and pay for it as directed by the domme through one of those other channels - or does NF and OF offer some benefit that offsets their "tax"?

Hello fp. Good to see you here again. I am sure each Lady has her own opinion but I prefer Venmo with a close second going to CashApp. It is still important for you to be discreet with the note. Neither of them deduct a fee (we get it all) if the receiver is willing to wait a couple of days for it to hit their bank account. If they want an instant credit they both charge a small fee.

Giftrocket canceled a transaction 10 days later (after I had already done the session) and closed my account because the guy put "session deposit" in the notes. They sent me an email saying that I needed to find a different way to accept payment because they were only for gifts. I have heard of this happening to several Ladies.

Paypal reveals both our real names so I don't use that at all. (Venmo is owned by Paypal but the process for sign up is different.)

Amazon gift card is a very safe option. It protects identity and I have never heard of one being revoked. However, there is only so much you can do with Amazon dollars. If cash is tight for a Domme or she has a surplus of funds with Amazon she probably will not want payment this way.

Hope this helps.

I can't speak for fans only because I don't have an account. But NiteFlirt is a complete rip off. They deduct a "connection fee" plus 40%. For tributes that take a straight 40%. I would much rather do the transaction direct.

The only benefit of NF is that everyone can remain completely anonymous. It doesn't reveal the phone number of either party. Even today with most work being virtual, I seldom log into NF and it is usually because someone requests it. I have also found that many clients are getting wise to the fees and I often have the clients suggest that we do future calls outside of NF. They get more time and I get more money. Of course if NF ever found this out they would delete the provider's account.

I know they have to make a living but they have gotten so much business due to the current climate that they should really have lowered their fees - at least on tributes. Their lack of empathy to our situation has made me much more ruthless with conversion off the site.

Never liked NF. I have been on herbicepscam.com, with dominant female bodybuilders, and supposedly that site is adamant about not exchanging contact info. I don't know what fees they charge.

The most convenient and intimate way of doing deposits is, of course, with a Mistress you know. With two Mistresses I've known I snail-mailed deposits and/or been trusted with their business bank account numbers to make direct deposits. For me making a deposit for them (33%, 50% etc.) was always a turn on because both told me to text when I did it via their bank account. They would usually text me back saying something provocative. With one Mistress I'd just leave an envelope on a table saying nothing. With the other, she loved it when I knelt down to start the session, and she counted the tribute as I gave her each individual bill.

Thank you, Mistress. That's a big help.

Wow. Because it means you'll "actually show up" its attitudes like this that dictate the necessity for Pro Dommes to charge a non refundable deposit.