Timing of jerking off before a session

First off, for the dommes on here, if you don't charge a deposit and want to increase the likelihood that a sub will show up for a session, you must try to control their ejaculation prior to the session.

For me, I like to jerk off right at about 2 to 2.5 hours before a session. I'm at a younger age where if I don't jerk off close enough to the session, certain activities make it feel like I could cum and I hate that and having to use the word yellow. I should be using words for pain, not to halt cumming.

Are there any masochists who are able to ejaculate within 20-30 minutes of the session to make it a more painful experience? Or when do you time your jerking off, if at all?

Interesting. If I did that I think I would lose my desire for a sessions. I like to "fast" before a session. But, I hear you about calling a safeword because you don't want to cum.

You could also consider seeing a domme who doesn't care if you cum or not. A Domme I saw in Germany a few years ago found it funny that I was about to cum 15 mins into a 2 hour session. She was SOOOO good. So she just decided to force it and once it happened told me that it doesn't change the fact that she gets to play with me for another 1 hour and 45 mins. She just kept going with the session and I came 2 more times before it was over. She was trying to get a 4th out of me but I had to beg her to stop it was just painful at that point and I thought the skin on my dick was going to peel off.

What's crazy is that I had a super hot date later that night and we went to the Kit Kat Club. But, I didn't try anything sexual because I knew I was spent... at least for the next few days.

Dr. Pleasure, Bravo! I’ve always “fasted.” For me over the years, the expense and the ability to dedicate the time and effort into getting a session I fasted to completely enjoy myself. One Mistress I had, a quasi bodybuilder who mentally & emotionally got to me, left a couple of session without pleasuring myself. Hours later I called or texted her and said I exploded replaying our meeting in my head and she said something like, “ Good pet. What I expected.” Then there were other sessions I was a complete hunk and pleasured another Mistress orally & and digitally and then exploded like Old Faithful in front of Her. Both “nothing & something” were tremendous.

I always "fast" as well - typically 2-4 weeks out. I find that as a means to self "tease and denial" and build anticipation to the session. I like to be "on edge and ready" when I session with my domme. The denial actually kinda "extends" the session back to when the fasting begins.

Kinda like a checklist approach - everything in place and perfect before a session. I like to compare it to a space launch. Alot of preparation in the weeks ahead, and then the countdown begins until a climatic take-off.....and the journey begins.

4 or 5 days is my standard "fast".

I would like to be able to do a session with that kind of build up. I am sure if you are doing an f bi type session, such a build up might be necessary.

For those of you that do these 4-5 day or multi week fasts from not jerking off, do the dommes you see know this? Do you regularly see them?

I guess I choose to jerk off 2-3 hours prior to a session because I tend to visit new dommes often, so it's an 85% chance that who I am seeing is new and I would find it odd to point out how long it's been since I've jerked off.

I just hate that for some reason, some want to use a hitachi wand on me early on in the session and I have to say yellow. Even getting my nuts tied up can be kind of on edge with them touching if you haven't ejaculated recently.

For me the longer the longer the period of abstinence the better....my longest is 45 days. For me the abstinence is a mark of respect for my Domme. Nor do I expect release during the session. It merely heightens my subservience and my pain threshold!

Being Owned, controlled, and chaste to my Mistress it is approaching a full year since I was granted an orgasm and that was provided by another of her slaves who did it under very strict instructions. Since last August, I have had 2 nocturnals, 2 ruined, and about 7 extended milkings with various s/os, Tomo devices, thrusting s/o's and lots of tease and denial while in and out of chastity. Bottom line, it was made 100% clear that my Mistress will never allow another real pleasurable orgasm. Her slaves and sissies do not ever get them nor should they be expected. I miss having one but in exchange for Her control and guidance it is a wonderful honor.

Yeah, but that feeling is incredible. Don't you just want to take the cage off and jerk off to some good porno and see how far you can shoot after so long? If you can hold the ejaculation in as long as possible, it shoots further. Go on man, crank down to some teen anal films. It'll feel good. No one has to know. What Mistress doesn't know won't hurt her.

No, that would be breaking my word of honor and dishonoring my Mistress and the end of our relationship of 5 years and almost 7 months, the last 18 being her property.

Teddy is into real chastity and you are into chastity fetish play, at best. They are two completely different things.

I always try to incorporate edging and orgasm denial for the sub a few days prior to the session if possible. My email instructions literally say I want them hungry and pliable. You must seriously have a hair trigger if you need to masturbate minutes prior to a session. Be careful in those parking lots

By the way, I don't honor safe words for fears of premature ejaculation. If it happens, it happens. My agenda does not change. However, if a client wants to bail after because he is embarrassed, I let him. Has happened only rarely. Most don't want the party to end just because they couldn't contain themselves.

Yes Mistress Ayn, You know me so well. If it were possible to be locked 100% of the time I would have been pierced and kept permanently locked a few years ago. It is about trust, honor, respect, sometimes being locked but the rest of the time it is about tortuous mental chastity. I do love knowing that part of me no longer belongs to me. It only resides on me. I miss you Dear Mistress Ayn and hope you are well and making lucky subs and slaves cry and beg.

I just get really sexually aroused seeing women with floggers and strapons. it's like porn for me.

Is there a reason why some dommes use a hitachi device on my penis? It feels good. it makes we want to ejaculate. Doesn't seem very dominant.

It depends on how it's used and the attitude of the user I suppose. It's probably not something I would start a session off with unless maybe you were caged, but vibs are great for tease and denial or forced O. If you don't like it or are afraid it will make you leave an unwanted puddle, then communicate that to the Domme pre-session. Vibs also numb some people out and they request they not be used. I don't have an issue with that.

Hi Mistress Ayn, It also takes a lot of regular practice with Mistress and sub/slave and over months we have gotten to the point where she uses it to get me close then on the underside of the clit to get me teetering on the edge and then stops and squeezes it like a milking until the dripping stops. Then again, and again and again until I feel a clit and ball massage meaning the chastity cage is being locked back on and then click. Last time it was coupled with a thrusting dildo and the Tomo prostate massager making sure every drop was milked out. Honestly it has gotten to the point of perfection and total surrender. I cannot wait for you be up here and participate.

Bro, you gotta feel what it feels like to shoot your jizz. You only live once. I am sure you could combine that leaking thing with some intermittent jerking off. Think of how good that would feel. Just do it

It is about respect and commitment I have made. Not a chance I will break my word to my Goddess and be dismissed.

I am sure teddy is old enough to know what "shooting his jizz" feels like. His tastes have matured while yours are still on the juvenile side, which is fine. Not everyone has the same tastes in sessions or lifestyle.

Sounds like you and MM have been having a lot of fun. I have been playing around a lot with ruined orgasms for My boys that are in chastity. I like the idea of giving the prostate some "relief" without causing the cascade of brain chemicals that inhibit submission. A new article on the art of the ruined orgasm is coming to My blog soon. Share it with MM and see what she thinks.

Oh yes Mistress! Thank you and cannot wait to read it.

An interesting read:

https://oxy-shop.com/blogs/bdsm-blog/the-art-of-teasing-and-denial