What % end up crying?

If you are a domme, about what % of your subs or clients end up crying during the session? Is it a goal you have for some if them or is it a request that some make of you?

If you are a sub, which are some if the dommes you have seen and with which you end up crying in session or sessions? Was it from pain or being helpless or from or situations?

Interesting question. I've had two subs cry in play time. One was an OTK. The tears weren't from the pain. The spanking wasn't that hard. It was more of an emotional release. The other was a general corporal session. But, it was also from the emotional release, not pain. Some sessions are rip roaring fun and others are more of a deep emotional experience.

It happened to me and it was an emotional release. I broke up with a longtime girlfriend. It was never going to work, we lived in different cities, different lives. About a month or two after the breakup I browsed ads for Dominas and saw an ad for a Mistress of mine I didn’t see in several years. I wasn’t even thinking of a session, just curious. I got aroused and called. Looking back I wasn’t ready.

Damned if she didn’t turn blonde like my old girlfriend which made me realize she had the same figure. We did a “next door neighbor/peeping Tom” seduction scene and by the time I was to be punished the Mistress’ look and actions reminded my of my lover. I started crying. She stopped, got out of character immediately and asked what was wrong. She held me and comforted me as I told the story, and dried my tears. She was wonderful. I’ll never forget it.

Of dommes who do ft, is it more common for guys to cry in ft sessions than in other types? And, in cnc corporal, do guys tend to cry if and when they ask to stop or try to safeword and the domme keeps going?

Being made to cry is a moderately common spanko fantasy. I went through 2 periods when I wanted it to happen. I have discussed this in other threads. It never happened and after a particularly severe caning that produced heavy bleeding I realized it never was going to happen with pain alone contrary to the "blubbered like a baby" cliches of many spanking stories.

A disciplinarian once told me that her success rate with producing tears is quite low.

Ive never cried during a session but i used to ask all the time for my Domme “to humiliate me so much i cry”. Just never happened i guess. As i think about It, one of the things that surprises me is how often i smile and laugh during sessions. I could be in some of the worst pain imaginable and i am often wearing the biggest grin ear to ear. Funny how the human brain works.

As a sub an intense beating brings out the tears from pain inflicted but my Mistress knows that the more pain she inflicts from flogging, whipping, paddling and spanking will elicit real tears of emotional release. The pain I feel inside literally flows like a river out until I collapse. Only 2 Mistresses have been able to bring me to such a cathartic state and aftercare is super critical after such an emotional and somewhat painful session on many levels.

It's pretty rare and usually it is from some emotional trigger - pain may be a part of it, but it is usually something far deeper than the pain. I have actually drawn more tears from the softer moments in session than the harsh ones.

Tears from pain alone are usually nothing more than watering eyes.

The only time I think I've cried during a session was in the midst of a long-running phone/distance kind of scene. There were instructions, assignments, etc., and one time the domme said to me that one of my assignments was to do something nice -- some form of self-care -- for myself and to report on what that was. So, yes, to what you said.

Your absolute right about that.

The only two times I cried were one of those reasons each. The one time a Domme and I agreed to do a very harsh ass whipping and to stop at nothing to just feel what it’s like. Well she just did that and by the end my eyes were watery just from fighting back the pain but no emotional feeling about it.

The other time was cause I don’t like to make eye contact with the Domme and even more so when she’s torturing me. So one time she was squeezing my balls and told me to look at her in the eye to which I would just glance up quickly and then look away. Then finally she told me she wouldn’t stop squeezing until I did, so by the time I did I started crying so she stopped. It was such mixed emotions from in pain to happiness to embarrassment that I liked all together. Then she told me it’s ok to be happy about and don’t be embarrassed cause that’s why you are here.

As Mistress Ayn and many of the Ladies of the FemDom Mansion can attest -- i am a crier. It is not often from the pain, actually i am more inclined to have a body orgasm after a good sound whipping or canning.

The crying, as Mistress Ayn, acknowledges in Her post to this thread, is an emotional release, not from the pain. After a particularly powerful kidnapping scenario where the Mistress threatened me to be locked up in the van all night and not allowed into the FemDom Mansion, i was finally allowed inside. As soon as i saw Mistress Ayn i fell to my hands and knees and cried - hard. It was such a relief to be allowed inside given that being separated from my Mistress was such a major fear.

i also had major cry when i finally succumbed to being Mistress Ayn's slave. i realized that She had finally "broken me." Not broken as in destroyed me but broken through all of the barriers i had built up for decades, even while seeing and serving Mistresses. i was finally Her slave and the joy and relief was overwhelming and came out in tears of joy. It was very therapeutic.

A slave crying can be a good thing, yet in the hands of the right Mistress.

+1 Last week my Mistress did a Judicial Punishment and pain focused session for 2 full hours. First time in several years. I can take a lot but this time it went much further with paddles, floggers, whips, single tail, canes and much more and the crying released all the stored up pain and emotion but she knows me and kept going making me count every single strike until she broke me and I finally uttered the words she really wanted to hear, "I surrender." I was a mess leaning over the dungeon whipping table and she comforted me cleaning and treating the marks and blood while I slowed down my breathing and came down to a more alert place.