Worried about Mistress

While I have had only too few sessions since moving out of NYC two years ago I still keep in touch with my longtime now under-the-radar Mistress by text or phone. We are pretty close... friends. Known her off and on for years. It’s been more than three weeks when she said she “wasn’t feeling well” in a text and broke off communication. I tried texting her a few times several days later and I was blocked. Finally she answered an email early this week saying she was “better” and working on her vanilla biz at home. She sounded very, very subdued. She lives alone. I don’t know her friends or family. I’m not sure if she had the virus or still has it, is depressed or what. While we are close she is a private person. I feel helpless.

Has this happened to anyone, subs or Dominas, that you know in the scene where some has all but disappeared due to this crisis?

This hasn't happened to me, but I can say that there is so much speculation and so many falsehoods about rules going forward and what to apply for and how the government will help, it is hard to stay afloat. Many of the resources are not unlimited and following this $2trillion bailout and the house vote is taking much of my time. Plus if she has children distance learning requirements are a burden that most people didn't expect. There is so much going on right now that assuming the worst is a reasonable course of action but there is so much out there anyhow to keep up with just in terms of "normal" activity.

Thank you. I tend to agree. In her case she is not married and does not have any children. She is in her early 50s... maybe. Except for an occasional strain or sore muscle, she's always been athletic. Disconcerting to say the least.

Hi, junglebeast. I am sorry you are being made to worry. The reverse of this actually happens to Dommes a lot. We call it ghosting. A sub drops of the face of the earth and won't return communication and one is left only with their worst imaginings and it is a very helpless feeling. Hopefully she is fine. Let us know if you hear back.

I remember a posting either here or MF or both about that problem. I'll report back. As I wrote, we are friends, not romantic. Known her since the late '90s and served her off and on since then. Helped her with relaunching her vanilla career. Maybe she's depressed about that.

I'll let everyone know once I get some word. Thank you, and thanks to everyone here. Mistress Ayn, and to all, be safe.

Good news. I did here from my Mistress and she is okay. Her text was somewhat feisty, which is always a good sign. Thanks to all here for, once again, letting me vent.

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mistress. Hopefully, she will give you more info soon.

I have had a few clients just disappear. There's little I can do. I have checked in on them but they don't always respond. I figure that they either don't wish to respond or they can't. I have to accept that this is what can happen in this kind of work.

I feel for you especially since I went through a similar experience. These are tough times for everybody and while our individual problems are different we all need resilience and patience. This will pass too.

I have a Mistress I have seen about 5 times. Our interests are eerily similar. We joked that thankfully we aren’t married. We’d be a train wreck together.
I texted her earlier this year I was going to be in the neighborhood. She quickly responded she wanted me to do something for her when I got there. Happy to do it was my response.
Since that communication it has been crickets. Even me sending a text just asking if she is ok and if she was taking a break. Nothing.
I do hope she is ok. Who knows.

Yup, I completely understand. I've known my Mistress since the late '90s, saw her off and on over the years. A couple of times she moved out of NYC. The past five years she's been the only one. It got to me I didn't hear a thing from her. I'm glad she's okay and got in touch.

On the other hand I served an NYC domina named Mistress Melora from the mid '90s until the mid '00s, off and on. After one rough patch we became close, friendly. I had an appointment one day and before she started she offered me a vintage spirit of some type. We toasted each other and she told me she was leaving NY to move to North Carolina, if I remember correctly, to take care of her ailing father and was getting out of the scene. We had a wonderful session, really a memorable send off for both of us. At that time I never saved any email or phone info after a session. I've thought of her over the years, wanting to at least email to see how she was doing. But... She did say a sincere, classy goodbye. I can live with that and hope she is well.

UPDATE: Sorry to say I’ve lost contact with my longtime Mistress who lives in NYC. No text or email responses in more than a week. She’s not married, no kids, etc. She did give me a handful of texts that were her usual jabs, but in the last week nothing. And she was supposedly sick two weeks ago. I’m worried... but done all I can. A crisis like this can change people. I just want to make sure she is okay. But, if she doesn’t want to keep in touch and is fine, I can’t do a thing about that.

You probably did this already but just in case...

Normally exploiting someone's network is not very cool. But in this case your intent is pretty benign so... Are there domme friends of hers you could reach out to just to know she's ok. If you're clear that's your only interest and not hunting other info, you should be able to get a reply.

Good luck.

Great idea but she has really been "under-the-radar" the past few years. I don't even know who she knows. But thank you.

Note that if I ever drop off the face of the earth Mistress Ayn, it’s because I’m dead.