cum during session

Do the guys ever come while giving ass worship or is it just at the end of some sessions that guys come or want to come or request to come?

This is where I am absolutely different than most. I have never requested to cum in a session. I have been allowed to do it... I have been pushed to do it... I enjoy doing it... But, I never request or expect to. My enjoyment from a session is about pleasing the Mistress I am serving rather than my own selfish desires.

Of course, as long as I am not on lockdown after a session I am monkeyboying it like crazy for a couple of days reliving it...

This is where I am also different from many.....
The session is NOT satisfying for me unless the Mistress's hand is actively part of the experience of cumming, to be polite.
As a result I now see mostly European Mistresses whenever I can when travelling overseas and find that European Born Dominatrixes in the USA are most comfortable with this predilection. I know "laws are different" etc. and I respect all limits on both ends of the exchange but I've been spoiled. In general not only is this practice assumed to be how the session will end in Europe but also in almost every respect the experience is more satisfying. The Mistresses are more beautiful, much more sophisticated and frankly quite a bit more experienced practitioners than than here in general.
In Germany-there is actually an independent organization that "certifies" those it finds that meet their qualifications for best at what they do. They also have a category of Mistresses called "Bizarre Ladies" that are "touchable".
I guess just a much longer tradition of acceptance (and now legalization) in almost every Northern European country leads to so many more woman practicing BDSM. The studios are also much more sanitary and luxurious since it's all legal.
More reason to "legalize it" here if any is needed.

This is also how I am, I don't request to come, but I also just don't want to do it.

Such eloquent writing
(Thought I should edit to add: hope you know I'm joking Asp. Sarcasm/humor doesn't always translate online)




Admittedly I have not been to Europe to see a Mistress, but perhaps you should visit Atlanta. Keeping in mind of course as you mentioned limits are different here in the U.S.

I've done over 100 session in the U.S. and at least 15 in Germany. Hand relief is not that common in Germany unless schedule with Bizarre ladies. It does happen more than in the U.S.

Even if hand jobs weren't illegal in the US, I still can't see myself going there. It just doesn't feel like a naturally dominant act for me - especially if someone requested it.

I am glad you found what you seek in Germany. Bizarre ladies, of course, offer the more sexual side of domination but I haven't communicated with many subs that have opted to see then. I would love to hear about some of those sessions, though. Do share . . .

Thank you... I've figured out that When ya don't shut up, ya turn a good phrase every once in a while (and I totally got what you meant without the edit, but I appreciate you making sure).

Thank you for Your perspective Mistress Ayn. I've only seen "Classic Dominas" in Europe so far. Perhaps 50-60 sessions. In almost half the cases the subject of a hand job was never raised in any pre-session discussions. It evolved naturally from stimulus and response, pain and pleasure in the session. The other 50%, I either raised it beforehand and knew or strongly suspected from my pre-session research that it wouldn't be a problem.

While admittedly the line between Classic Dominas and "touchable" Bizarre Ladies is NOT a bright line and tends toward fine gradations, there ARE these two very separate and distinct ways Mistresses define themselves online in Continental Europe. BTW, not to be too obvious but "touchable" refers specifically to the Mistress. On my next visit I intend to explore a session or 2 with touchable Bizarre Ladies. I promise a report.

As a footnote: London is very much like the good ole USA- many though not all British Born dominas have the same disinclination toward what they refer to as "hand relief" (Sounds like a creme for chapped dish-washing hands-"no sex, please, we're British!"). Anglo Saxon culture and it's sexual prohibitions run deep, I guess. But hope springs eternal. I never thought that Pot would be legal in the USA and here we are well down that road.

European and America Dominatrices are very different. English Dommes, being neither European or American have their own style. Generally based on public school, and equestrian types of corporal punishment. I have conducted numerous sessions in both England, and on the Continent. I have never been asked to provide "hand relief."

America is quite a different kettle of fish. If twitter is to be believed at least fifty percent of Dommes in the USA are FinDoms.

Unfortunately prostitutes in Domme cloths make up another large percentage.

With many of the big named Mistresses in America advertising activities that are clearly prostitution. It's little wonder you don't have to ask.

I like to cum at the end of the session but it's not a requirement. I already had very good sessions without cum at the end, and low quality sessions with cum may happen too. It's like cherry on the cake for me: it only improves the quality session a little bit but it's not compulsory. And I would never ask her to do it, it's up to her to decide how she wants to end the session.

However, if it is a session with cum at the end, I much prefer to do it myself than letting the dominatrix do it. I'm generally more efficient than her (unless she uses a milking machine), and, most importantly, I love when she tortures me at the same time and it's easier for her to torture me if she has both hands free.

And thus I much like when she orders me to "do the work" myself while she sadistically and increasingly tortures me, implying that she will stop only when I cum.
The most common situation is her sitting on my face and hardly torturing my nipples while I try to finish myself (which is ALWAYS very arousing and therefore very successful), but she may also handsmother me, headscissor me, torture me with electricity or anything else...

This is really hot, thanks for sharing.

Sometimes I'll have guys cum, sometimes not. Sometimes I'll just make them edge until they are a mess. Depends on my mood that day haha.

I never asked. I’ve had a few after we got to know each other use a vibrater on me at the end of the session depends on what kind so session we’re having. First time it ever happened the domme ask me have you ever tasted your cum to which I said no. She then said well you’re about to find out then. Sure enough I cummed and since I was strapped down I couldn’t leave which I wanted to do. She sure kept her word and fed it to me afterwards.

In a majority of my sessions both overall and those in recent years I do not cum during the session.

However in 2007-2008 there was one Domme with whom I did many sessions. She seemed to think a sub should relieve himself at the end of the session. During our very first session I was having trouble reaching orgasm. I politely suggested that it might be helpful if she pinched my nipples. She did so rather eagerly and I soon finished.

At the end of the next session without being asked she came forward and pinched my nipples as I masturbated without being asked. Again she seemed very eager to do it. This became our standard procedure. We were in close proximity and there was eye contact as she did it. There was a certain erotic playfulness in her eyes that I still remember. It was very special.

Thomas,

I love that story and having that kind of in-close intimacy with a Domme during a session (and especially in the way she did it with you).

I'm a masochist and I have learned how to cum from certain types of pain. Most dommes I have sessioned with have found this interesting and entertaining, and so i regularly cum in sessions. I've developed a personal rule that pain-induced orgasms is the only way I should be allowed to cum in a session.

In my mind cum = ejaculation. Orgasm or peak sub space can be more the apex of physical and emotional feelings. So yes I have peaked emotionally during ass worship, and physically when receiving pain.

As for ejaculation: for me self-consumption represents a natural manifestation of submission and emotional humiliation. It also represents the high praise I wish to express to the Domme.

Interesting. I work with a female sub that can orgasm easily from pain - specifically corporal. A lot of people think it's a parlor trick but it's not. So I get it.

I've had male subs spontaneously orgasm from nipple play or CBT but I think those were more about the stimulation than the pain. I would be very interested to see you "perform".

I’m jealous I’m a masochist too but also a submissive. I’ve fantasised about being made to cum from non genital stimulation but never been close. I’ve thought about asking a Domme who I see on a regular basis to attempt to program me this way but I am unable to session regularly and often enough to make it a realistic possibility. Besides I just don’t think it’s in my makeup for a non genital stimulated orgasm to happen.

I am exactly as you with this. Even when I first started to session approximately 40 years ago I don’t think I ever asked to cum although it was so common that I assumed that’s how all sessions ended. I definitely want to cum at the end of a session but it’s not a necessity. I leave it up to the Mistress if and how she wants me to do it.

It seemed years ago it was very common for Dommes to help with the stimulation but the last 10-15 years or so it seems like that has changed and they direct me to get myself off.

Not that this is cum, but I can precum a lot during a session to the point where one domme would bag my cock with a condom every time.

I have to admit that I absolutely love the videos you shoot with her for exactly that reason.

This sounds like something I need to see!

Asp,

I had exceptionally good chemistry with her.

Mistress Ayn,

It's actually not easy for me. It takes a really good connected feeling with a sadist and at least an hour of heavy torment (most of my sessions are 2-3 hours). For me, two variables that can really help it happen are either deep eye contact and/or heavy breath play. Seeing a sadist enjoy my suffering is the ultimate turn on for me. And I think being told I'm not going to be allowed air again until I orgasm sets off some lizard-brain survival instinct that somehow helps me comply.

I'm not sure if I'm jealous of your female sub or not. My pain tolerance tanks after an orgasm. If I came easily/quickly from pain, I might be in a lot of trouble for the rest of the session. Most Dommes I've sessioned with will switch things up when I let them know I'm getting close so it doesn't happen too early. But, I've always been curious about how many times I could orgasm from pain if I was told to just let it happen and how torturous the "reload" period could be.

I'm not in Atlanta often, but I'll be sure to respectfully reach out the next time I am.

With kindness,
tab