Fetish List

I'm constantly asked if I'm into this, or into that. It seems like no matter what interests I list, someone asks if I'm into deep sea bondage with forced starfish insertion!

This brings me to pose the question, what are you looking for on a Domme's interest-fetish list?

Strapon, smoking, sounds. I am open to spit, body worship and forced consumption of almost everything but poop.

One more thing. Sometimes there are legalities involved. Strapon play, anally, is against the law in certain states/areas. So it may not be listed as an interest even though it is widely popular.
So if I see a short lists of interests but a large list of equipment then I can read between the lines.
A listing that included: Many toys and sizes, doesn’t make me think she has a lot of paddles. Just an FYI.

Personally I always prefer to see some kind of separation between "Love it" and "Like it" for fetish/kinks lists. Like a good example is i've seen dommes who on their website bold the fetishes that they view as one of their "specialties" or favorites.

Just for the record, I'm not into deep see bondage with forced starfish insertion. Basically, I'm looking for dominas who emphasize sensual domination, and who create sensuous role plays I do love CBT on the corporal side of things. But overall, I'm not a fan of heavy corporal.

You have posted a great series of interesting questions and topics. It sounds like you are conducting some market research for you social media promotional efforts. Great questions, appreciate the chance to offer an opinion.

I like to see a list that is as specific as possible, without of course taking risk with LE. For example, if a Domme enjoys bondage I appreciate knowing if she enjoys all bondage or has a specific favorite type (leather, metal, rope, latex etc.) I am a huge bondage slut so that's important to me.

Often I can get a pretty good idea of a Domme's interest from her list of equipment and even more so from any pictures she has on her site that include equipment and furniture.

One other thing, while I suppose some Dommes are honestly into "everything", I find a long list of just about every fetish or favorite play to be unhelpful. I mean, EVERYTHING can't be a favorite!

I also appreciate a list of what a Domme is NOT into so that I a not wasting her time or mine by reaching out to her to try and arrange a session that she has no intertest in doing.

Again, thanks for posting some interesting questions, you make the board interesting and fun.

Areas of Interests, clothing they'll wear, clothing for subs are all things I look at.

I also REALLY like limits, not the generic "nothing illegal" statement, but truly stating, You do not do XXX...

I think that's becoming critical, as most slaves understand if X is legal in a particular state, and realize not to ask, etc, but beyond that, what's completely not gonna fly with you.

Pictures of things can send message that words can't say, and get points across as well, so that could be important.

thanks, great questions

Thank you. I'm a Mistress who thrives on interaction with my subs and lifestyle slaves. My style of domination has a strong psychological component.

I'm going to get into a sub's head, one way or another!

Thanks. I'm curious. Are you more interested in learning which activities are illegal in a Domme's particular state, or knowing Her personal limits?

I have several limits. They involve personal preferences, illegality, and activities that are fundamentally unsafe.

Hello bladezeus,

Interesting that you would say you like posted limits. A couple of years ago I decided to add My hard limits to the application in hopes of cutting down on the number of people that request certain activities that I won't participate in.

I think it's helped a little. I still get the random email from someone that hasn't read one thing and is so used to being told "no" that they just send a copy and paste email to any Domme that strikes their fancy. Mostly this is full toilet guys.

It has definitely cut down on the AB and age play requests. My list of don'ts is pretty short.

My hard limits: scat (hardsports), blood play, age play, incest play, adult baby and intimate sexual contact. Don't ask.

I should probably add "anything smelly". I have no desire to not bath or wear the same socks for a week to cater to someone's scent fetish. This seems to be requested more frequently these days.

I doubt I could add anything to the list that hasn’t been said or done. I never request anything strange. I mostly just go with the basics stuff in a session.

I particularly like being spanked over the lap of a lady wearing a slip. Most of the youngsters today don't even know what that is.

So... I have a different approach than most clients in that I actually don't care what she lists. My goal is to serve, please and experience what different Dommes are like when they can do whatever things they choose to do (as long as they are within my limits). Attitude and approach are therefore more important for me than particular activities she may or may not include.

I actually provide my own extremely detailed list of fetishes and activities (which are rated by how I feel about each one) so that she can see where we are compatible and design a session she can enjoy as much as possible. The only thing I really look for in her list is if she lists things that I won't do (so I can specifically say something before the session).

Thanks for response, I think for it's more about interests and limits, but honestly given how legalities vary so much from 1 state to the next, if there's a way to advise subs of those things, as it's a difficult area to research, as data is very vague to my knowledge.

And I'm pretty limited myself in contrast to many, maybe I grew up watching classic stuff vs some of the more eclectic fantasies that some have...I try to research and actually respect dommes that have limits in particular around safety areas for sure.

Thank you,

Thanks that's great info...I think it helps subs, and with the way Internet does today, I suspect you get way too many that are out there.

Personally, never understood smell fetish, beyond latex or leather, nor ANY of your hard limits, those just don't make sense to me. But I suppose the same could be said of my interests as well.

thank you