Something i've tried to figure out for years...

i have a filing cabinet full of souvenirs from - mostly - my one Domme. They are obviously very valuable to me. Anything from magazines, personal photos, panties, etc, etc. i could really use some help as i'm quite scared.
my S.O. knows nothing of my BDSM interests (tried to get there with Her, but just didn't work out)

So my point is what will happen when my stash is discovered when i die? Yikes!! i would never want to hurt Her feelings or embarrass Her. Also we have a kid - can't imagine the horror if our kid found out about her dad "being such a perv!"
i certainly don't want her to remember me that way. How can i have my stash disposed of without major consequence after i die?

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated! i have pretty much zero ideas at the moment & also have no idea how long i'll be around. Could have a heart attack tomorrow!

You could dispose of it now.

You could keep it a storage facility that only you and a lawyer you have a trust with ( to dispose of it ) know about.

We've got a bit of a sticky wicket here. I recommend moving your "stash" ASAP, if you have health problems. A large UPS store mailbox, might work. I shutter to think what my mother would think if she found my King Dong Dildo, posthumously!

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I'd stash it a trusted dom's studio or somewhere secure. If it is a commercial place, just make sure no one settling the estate can track it down. Perhaps, put a trusted friend on the rented spot with you and ask them to close it out should something happen? I have known families who stumbled on someone's secret live while settling their estate. It can cause a lot of pain and misunderstanding.

I went through that several years ago with a family member. Find a trusted friend that you can leave your stash with or make it possible for him to retrieve it when that time draws near.