Originally Posted By Mistress Ayn
It could be as DommeLynx described, that they don't want their clients to go elsewhere (which I agree is ridiculous)


I get this. NONE OF US want our clients to go elsewhere. But part of being a professional and an adult is understanding that's how it goes sometimes. People may want to go to other providers.

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Etiquette for Dommes: If you consistently ask a particular provider to vet clients - do something nice for them.


Yes, I agree that this doesn't just apply to subs but other Dommes as well.

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Also, a nice "thank you" when a Domme does the research to vet someone is common courtesy. About a year ago I spent at least 20 minutes trying to track down a guy that was using me as a reference with a Domme in California. I finally figured out who he was and suggested the Domme get a big deposit because the guy had a history of flaking and using multiple email address. She never bothered to acknowledge that I had even replied.


This is actually a big pet peeve of mine. I have taken the time to give other Dommes helpful reference info and some haven't even bothered to say "thank you". I mean, I just did something to help facilitate your safety and income and you can't even acknowledge my reply?

As I've said: I'm not shocked by people's fantasies, I'm shocked by their lack of manners.