Originally Posted By DommeLynx
Unfortunately some Dommes are not willing to put in effort for something if they don't gain from it financially. It's really upsetting since the reference system helps all of us stay safe.

Also had a Domme tell me to "stay far away from" a sub I was already seeing for months because she didn't want him going to someone else. Ugh.


Dommes who are offended by being asked to or refuse to provide a reference are probably insecure. I truly understand that some people are afraid of losing clients but, hey, this is a business and whether you're willing to provide the reference or not, the client is going to do what they want to do. All your refusal does is makes you look unprofessional and too selfish to care about other people's safety.

I'm sure most pro Dommes have a story about how a reference or blacklist info saved them from some high-risk client. Or, in the very least, allowed them to make more informed choices about who they were going to invite into a room alone with them.