Mistress Ayn,
I know I'm in "the deep end of the pool" on this one but I'll admit that I've said to a Mistress and posted here or on Maxfisch that "I'm not really submissive" or words to that effect. I can see your point. It can be irritating. Maybe even topping from the bottom.

Here's what I mean when I say (or write) that. I do role play, but I'm not an all-out corporal or bondage guy. Never was. (I did do scissoring and non-competitive wrestling with some.) Many of the Dominant ladies who I've had the pleasure of meeting or serving over a period of time gave me sensual "privileges" as some of them would call it in the context of the role play. Few, if any, Mistresses would discuss such activities in a public forum or advertise it. The activities were not FS, but highly sensual.

When I have gotten comfortable with a Mistress I do get chatty - as you can see by my posts. Discussing it was an outlet for me.