I am sorry to hear that your drop was that bad. Having others to share your experience and offer support is definitely helpful - even if it's just to know you are not alone. Sometimes it's just something that you have to get through, but if it lingers more than a day without improving in the future, let Me know. Personally sometimes I think it is the "disconnect" from the Domme that contributes. "Your time" is over and you are not sure when you will be able to repeat . . . I am always here and never fully disconnected from you, so let Me know if you need a little extra support. I may just tell you to get out of the damned bed and send Me a picture from the gym. ;-)

The feelings of domme-drop may even be a greater conern for a domina than sub-drop for a submissive simply because as a sub, I have the opportunity to experience these feelings perhaps five or six times a year, whereas a professional domina is liable to these feelings five or six times a week.

My goodness, thank you so much =^^= That means a lot, especially coming from yourself.

I think we as practitioners must understand and practice self care on a deeper level than the buzzword seems to imply.

A quote? phrase? I saw on twatter and liked: "True self-care is building a life from which you do not need to escape."

True. Volume certainly plays a part, though of course everyone's mileage varies.

I would say I have built a tolerance, to some extent. Though I have also gotten better at knowing my limits and enforcing good boundaries in both sessions and scheduling. All parts of the whole, I suppose.

I felt like you after after a session. Not BDSM session but exam session, when I used to cram 20 hours a day, it was intense and after I passed all exams I felt empty.

Usually after a BDSM session I feel exhilarated, rejuvenated and in a very good mood. I might have trouble sleeping before but not after. It is possible that mental activities drain you while physical activities invigorate you. I wonder whether this happens because my sessions usually end in some very active ways.

Okay, so I realize this particular thread is over a year old now, but I came across the following article while doing research after one of my bouts with sub drop and found it to pretty relevant to the feelings I was dealing with. Thought maybe others may find it helpful ...

https://jenniferbene.com/2016/12/ask-me-anything-what-is-sub-drop/

This is interesting. My experience is limited to playing with my girlfriend and one professional session. Both left me high as a kite and happy for days. Why do you think it is that others may experience a form of depression?

I think there's probably a variety of factors why some experience it and others may not. Several articles I've read make mention of the chemical imbalance that can occur after an intense session in which one's body releases a lot of endorphins, epinephrine and adrenaline all at once and then afterwards you're coming down off of that high and it's akin to withdrawal.

For me personally, I know that there's also the factor of having anticipated and looked forward to a session with my Mistress for so long and that the time with her is so intense and so mesmerizing that when it's over and I'm back to my "vanilla" world, it's a bit depressing. In a way, it's kind of like post vacation blues. As another article stated, our memories begin to create a stark contrast between the sweet pleasure of 'what was' and the less appealing 'what is'.

I get topdrop every now and then as well. Honestly, a nice bubble bath in candlelight and some chill music really helps reset my mind. The energy I don't want flows right out my body, into the water, then down the drain

My Mistress recommended working out for me, which I have to admit did help! Hmmm ... a glass of wine and then working out might work even better but probably isn't a good combination.