I'm the kind of guy who plans two moves ahead, usually I book at least a week in advance, so planning does not bother me and the journey is the reward. However it depends on the nature of the relation. There are times when just meeting and talking could be just as good as the planned activities.

For instance I met once a mistress who was out of this world good, and left me intrigued by my reaction. It happened that she was very articulate and intelligent too, and I read a lot of and about her before the next session.

I had so many questions for her that 100 minutes out of a two hour session passed before we got to it.