Personally I find it challenging requesting sessions.

I have been told that I am topping from the bottom when I am detailed in my request. I give my past experiences and new areas I would like to explore but sometimes it is viewed unfavorably. This usually relates to bondage.

If I list out of kinks it gives an idea of my interests but they try to do everything on the list and it doesn’t make for a good session. For example I have had spanking and cbt to last a few minutes each.

For new dommes I try to do an hour. It gives me an idea of their interests and experiences. Most of the time I am looking for more intensity and pain but Domme wants to treat it as a getting to know you type session which is a waste of time and money.