As usual Mistress Ayn, You beat me to the punch on a point.

I would absolutely love to find some Domme to randomly control me through text, email and social media... Ordering me into chastity or to perform actions for Her like edging while watching videos of Her dominating men and women... Having me insert a butt plug that She can control from Her phone (or set an alarm to wake me up at 3am with a 20 minutes pattern of vibrations)... All leading up to a visit with Her... and for Her to do all this extra effort for Her own pleasure instead of having to pay extra for it. That is the stuff that fantasies are made of...

In reality, the only way it works is if the Domme is compensated for all that extra effort and it is up to the sub to make it worth it for Her if they desire that full "experience" rather than just a session. I think future pet is correct that not every Domme can actually deliver on it or even want to try... But, if a sub is willing to compensate a Domme then it isn't too difficult to find.