Hello junglebeast. I am sure most of us have had this happen at one time or another. However, the obsession doesn't necessarily have to be about a Domme to have it negatively impact their life. I've seen subs take insane risks to get the "high" that crossdressing, public humiliation, forced bi, or whatever rocks their world will give. As an example, I knew a well known professional in a smallish town that would go to a porn theater and engage in public sex acts with men. I don't know if you would call that obsession or addiction, but it's not healthy because he was risking his career, family and social standing. It would have ruined him if he got caught. All my cautioning against this behavior fell on deaf ears.

As far as subs getting obsessed with me in particular and it having a negative impact on their lives, I've suspected that's happened a few times. All one can really do is make it clear that the relationship is a professional one and that it can go no farther. I am usually pretty open with my clients in letting them know why I am not available in that way. I know many Mistresses don't want clients to know they have a boyfriend, a husband, partner, etc. but if I think someone is developing an unhealthy attachment I want it to be clear that my relationship status makes me unavailable. That usually shuts it down - and if they don't want to be a client anymore because of it, I am fine with that. It means I probably missed a bullet.

Regarding stalkers, I have never had a bad experience with this. I've had a few subs get a bit obsessed with trying to find out personal things about me with internet searches and such. It doesn't necessarily make them a stalker but it is seriously creepy - whether they realize it or not.