I've seen both. For the most part, I avoided true fetishists, when I was an active Dom. Most of the fetishists that I met had an itch that could never be scratched. They were also the biggest wankers. There were a a few that were a lot of fun but, most, not so much. Some of my friends/clients thought they had a fetish. No...it wasn't a fetish...it was a kink that could evolve, change, grow and, be more about the lady they were playing with at the time.