I am exactly as you with this. Even when I first started to session approximately 40 years ago I don’t think I ever asked to cum although it was so common that I assumed that’s how all sessions ended. I definitely want to cum at the end of a session but it’s not a necessity. I leave it up to the Mistress if and how she wants me to do it.

It seemed years ago it was very common for Dommes to help with the stimulation but the last 10-15 years or so it seems like that has changed and they direct me to get myself off.
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And still trying to figure it all out.................. buffalo