I scratched my itch for spanking by attending and playing at some public (and inexpensive) gatherings but I resisted seeking out a professional for a few reasons. First was the cost, second was that, at the time (the mid-1980s), the means for finding resources and making contact were a bit seedy, and finally, I was (and still am) interested in spanking only, and from the ads, I didn't really see what I was looking for.

Not too long before a trip to the San Francisco Bay area, I read about Fantasy Makers on the Internet, and the way they promoted their facility and goal of fulfilling a fantasy, this sounded like a reasonably safe bet. I made a phone call, had a fairly lengthy conversation with the "housemother" about the spanker and spanking of my dreams, and she suggested that Phoenix would be a perfect match. After reviewing Phoenix' profile on the web site, I set up an appointment.

On The Day, I had some butterflies in my stomach, but I felt welcome, and after meeting Phoenix and discussing my hopes, likes, and dislikes, she went off to get dressed, and came back the girl of my dreams. We went upstairs to a non-threatening parlor setting and she went to work. It was a total success. While I'd had a few spankings prior to this one, this was the first time that all the pieces were put together.

So, communication was the key here, as you'll hear a lot. Don't be afraid to open up to a pro - they've heard it all. And don't be afraid to accept that someone you picked, after some discussion, might not be right for you. The trick is to figure that out before you nail down the session.

Learn things, don't assume too much, and good luck on your quest.